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Ratty. Please talk sense to me.

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JackieWeaversExitButton · 21/09/2021 13:13

I don't know what I'm looking for here - just a vent! Maybe some wise words.

I'm working my notice period (WFH) at a really boring local gov job where I haven't had enough to do since joining - hence me working my notice! So no emails and calls coming in to distract me right now... my boss is so hands off it's one of the reasons I'm moving on.

DP got back from working overseas last week and our walk last night was stalled by him losing our car keys (he's forever misplacing stuff) which took half an hour to find. We've also spent heaps of time with his family who are up visiting and now his DSIS is messaging me (not him!) to ask why he/we don't go down to look after their kids more often which has made me cross.

I've had a few things on this week (I never miss a Zumba class ;) ) and it's like there's an expectation that we'll both drop everything and go up there. I'm gluten intolerant and often offered bready/pasta things by his folks (who are lovely) which I have to always say 'thanks but no thanks' to.

All this topped off by sleeping like hell last night because I'm not used to DP being back (he's in oil) and his mattress hogging in my one-bed flat - has led me to despair today.

Send good thoughts! Or give me a shake - whichever...

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MinnieMountain · 21/09/2021 13:16

All sounds perfectly reasonable to me.

DH has been away since Friday. I’m not looking forward to sharing our bed again tomorrow night.

RickOShay · 21/09/2021 13:17

It’s ok to feel ratty. I feel ratty today. I have so much to be grateful for, but I just want all those people I’m grateful for to bog off and leave me alone so I can read my crappy thriller on my bed and drink lots of tea.
Embrace the rattiness and you will feel better tomorrow. Flowers

Skiptheheartsandflowers · 21/09/2021 13:23

How long have you been together? Long enough to be seen as default family I guess. Is his sister having a bad time at the moment hence the expectation of helping with the kids? Or does she think you owe it to her for some reason?

At any rate, don't reply till you've had chance to cool down and talk to him about it. No reply is often the least harmful thing all round.

JackieWeaversExitButton · 21/09/2021 14:50

Thanks for your support! The solidarity is what I needed. Also relieved to know that I'm not the only person who loves sleeping solo. Less hot and clamming.

We've been together 18 months so I'm not totally immersed in his extended family traditions. But his DSIS does like to cause a drama. She may well be having a hard time but I still think it's cheeky to ask him (via me) to drop everything!

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