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Do you take your other half for granted?

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jagjagjagjaguar · 20/09/2021 12:37

Pondering..

I have anxiety and as a result I spend a significant amount of time worrying and castrophising, usually along the lines of losing a loved one, including my DP. On a positive note as a result of this, it means that I do the opposite and really appreciate my family and my dp a lot more - I am a kind person anyway but I feel like it makes me that little kinder, forgiving and caring. Of course, I am no walk over but I do think that my anxiety contributes to me not taking him for granted as much as I may have done if I didn't suffer with anxiety. I have had treatment for anxiety and the thoughts are less of a burden as they used to be but I am a natural worrier and I dont think my anxious thoughts will ever fully leave me.

I guess it made me wonder if others took their partners for granted? Out of interest are you a natural worrier? I suppose it is probably natural to do so, and I am sure many people would be guilty of to some extent. For me, perhaps I take other areas of my life for granted.

As cheesy as this sounds, I feel so lucky every day to be with such a great partner, warts and all. My friend recently lost her partner (early 30s) and this plays on my mind a lot too, I imagine this will also contribute to the way i feel.

I hope this thread makes sense, trying trying write down my thoughts quickly in my lunch break and wondering how others feel?

OP posts:
Rainbowheart1 · 20/09/2021 12:42

I’m a worrier and have anxiety. I don’t take DP for granted at all and I’m “extra loving” towards him as I really do appreciate the rock that he is. I would say I’m over the top with it due to my anxiety as I’m very emotional. He pulled me through some really shit times though, always there. His a rock.

Chikapu · 20/09/2021 13:24

I don't have anxiety and I'm not much of a worrier, I don't take my husband for granted in the slightest. I'm confused how you've managed to correlate the two things tbh.

BlueMoons90 · 20/09/2021 13:26

I don't take my DP for granted at all. Everyday I'm very aware of how lucky I am to have him. I don't have anxiety - I don't think there's a correlation.

ComtesseDeSpair · 20/09/2021 13:27

I try not to take him for granted. I thank him for the things he does and I tell him how much I appreciate him. I think recognition in a partnership is important. He’s strong, independent, a do-er and nothing really phases him; I think it would be quite easy to get lazy and just assume he’ll always get on with things, and I don’t want to let that happen.

I’m not a worrier. There’s no point worrying about stuff I can’t affect or change; and there’s really relatively little that could go wrong in my life that I haven’t already mitigated for which would be worth catastrophising about. I’ve always been easygoing and pretty carefree and I struggle around people who aren’t.

InnPain · 20/09/2021 15:03

I think I do take him for granted but I also feel he takes me for granted too.

We get so busy in everyday life that we rarely take the time out for just us.

nc4565 · 20/09/2021 18:20

@InnPain

I think I do take him for granted but I also feel he takes me for granted too.

We get so busy in everyday life that we rarely take the time out for just us.

Same here.

Fairyliz · 20/09/2021 19:43

Yes we both do after 35 years I think it is natural.
However then he will say something funny or we will look at each other and know what the other one is thinking and the connection floods back.
Don’t think you can keep up being totally appreciative 24/7 that would much too exhausting.

Stompythedinosaur · 20/09/2021 20:00

I know I do. He is fab and I am lucky to have him. But our relationship is one if the great constants of my life.

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