Hi all, I'm a single dad to 2 boys (9) and (11) they live with me and see their mum around 1 night in every 4 weeks, at her request.
It all began when I got a text message from my wife saying 'i've had enough of you', at the time I was at the park with the kids and thought what on earth, so hurried back home anxiously, on arriving home my wife said she wanted it to just be her and the boys, and asked me to leave, no explanation was given but I had felt we were drifting apart for some time, I should of intervened as I know I didn't give her as much attention as I had in the earlier years, in fact we both had given up on each other.
2 days later after leaving I received a text saying Tony has moved in and we love each other, now it made sense to me why she was in such a hurry to get me out, I honestly didn't see it coming though, I mean not with Tony! To explain, he is twice her age, which I admit is not unusual in some circumstances, that person could be a soul mate and kind, most important, great with the kids, but he is none if those, he's violent, had the police round for domestic abuse, threatened me and told my kids he wants to murder me. He has my ex round his little fingers and over the last 2 years my ex has been moulded into another version of him, they gave me the kids, then posted on Facebook that I stole them for financial gain, i think we can all agree, nobody raises kids on their own for financial gain, I've never been so broke in my life! she constantly messages me telling me I've agreed to things and broken agreements we made, when no agreement was made, accusations I lie and I'm dishonest when I tell her everything regarding our children, i even let her into my home to inspect it's okay for our kids, she uses the kids as a weapon, as in telling them instead of myself drop off and pick up dates, and when the kids forget to tell me, it's all my fault and I'm not a good dad. She doesn't pay any maintenance and claimed her self employment earning went down so to only pay the minimum through CMS, has stopped sharing travel, so I collect and drop off, I recently asked nicely if we could share travel between us, her response was, 'you've got a cheek asking' and then sent me a very long text accusing me of everything in the past that was all her doing, not mine, I guess the question is, what am I dealing with here?