Can I get some advice please on hatred.
I don't want to give away too much identifing information.
I have an estranged sibling. She estranged herself as a control tactic. She was hoping I would run after her.
The estrangement was for tit for tat stuff. She used to get offended easily and she holds onto everything.
I've been on the end o f vicious hatred campaign from her for years.
Insults, mocking me, twisted stories, bringing up old rows and other irrelevant stuff that never had anything to do with us falling out, threats of a smear campaign, followed through on them threats, twisted stuff for example claiming in messages all I wanted to do was to suck her tits and suck my brothers cocks (she was jealous because I have a better relationship with some of them. I get on well with them but just not that well). She sent me naked pictures of her body saying I was only jealous of her.
She's definitely on a mission. That's for sure. I think she wants me to make amends and be friends with her. That's not going to happen at this stage though. It's too late after all the poison she's sent to me and all the shit stirring she did. I felt sorry for her about three years ago and I replied back to a round of messages and I was thoughtful, polite, respectful, she raised some issues and I was honest in dealing with them when she was demanding for why, why, why. I was very mindful and careful too in my choice of words. I was respectful and I was taking on the blame too and careful not to blame her. She just threw everything back in my face and continued to hold onto the issues that she has on me.
I took on relevant measures like you would do an ex - changed numbers, email address, limited social media.
There was a recent round of communication from her and this time it was towards my employer but it wasn't the first time from her to do this. It was just to smear my name. I was grey rocking her attempts for attention for years by the way.
The police won't do anything because she's family and she's not threatening violence. I'm not in the UK where there are options of court orders like a restraining order and other orders. The only court order available to me is an injunction which is very expensive. I was bounced around between solicitors and police.
I am on my own with what is a very stressful situation of a vicious hatred and smear campaign.
One small piece of consolidation that I have is that my employers think she's fucking mad. It still wasn't nice though because it came out of nowhere after a few months of a quite spell.
For the first time I saw fury. Pure fury came over me. Not straight away. I went home in a fury. There was so much fury I came down with the worst headache I ever had.
I decided to take matters into my own hands. Not in the physical sense. I made a new Facebook profile and I found some of her friends listed under a profile picture of hers. I zoned in upon one in particular. I know she has a good job that would be from years of college and studying hard. So she should be some what intelligent. I sent her messages. Message after message after message. The messages from my sister. The twisted words, the insults, the porn, her naked body pictures. I couldn't send it all because its too much and I don't have the time to send it all but I sent a lot along with some confirmations of the siblings phone number and email address. So the messages came from her. I notified her that that matter has been referred to the police. Surely she would be intelligent enough the take the threat of police seriously and she might understand what the public prosecutions system is like. The fact is I was also messaging her and getting her involved and she probably doesn't want to be involved.
Do you think would that be enough to give my sister a fright into stopping? My sister did send me one message just the one complaining about me but it was just the one. She usually never stops. Or should I be worried that the crazy bitch will just turn more covert on me and do more in retaliation? Would it be enough. If I ever hear from her again, I will send more. I don't care if the pair of them decides to report me for harassment. At this stage I don't care but I think she would be too much of a coward because she would have to stand at a police counter and tell them how I got her naked pictures. I don't think she realises half of the stuff she sent me over the past few years so seeing some of that back in front of her from her friend should be enough of a fright.
What do you think?