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RunningStrong · 17/09/2021 18:59

If you were going to spend this eveing with a perfectly pleasant but not very talkative person you don't know very well, what would be your top five attempts to get the conversation going?

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quickwhitedog · 17/09/2021 19:16

politics. religion. money

😊

Straysocks · 17/09/2021 19:17

Football. Not even kidding.

36degrees · 17/09/2021 19:17

Last film you saw?

Zarene · 17/09/2021 19:19

Your journey to the meeting
The weather
What they’re doing at the weekend.

YES they’re dull. But everyone can answer them and then you hope that something they say sparks a more interesting question.

SisterAgatha · 17/09/2021 19:23

If married/partnered I ask how they met their spouse.

BobaFettOnMyBedsideTable · 17/09/2021 19:23

Would depend whether they were male or female and if they had kids...

  1. What they/I had got up to over the summer.
  2. My kids/their kids, how they were finding it back at school.
  3. Emma Radacanu success in the US open
  4. Hate to say it, but probably Covid if the first 4 failed.
  5. Their work/my work, but that would be a last resort.
Original poster
RunningStrong · 17/09/2021 19:35

I can do football, but they can't I've tried.

Single man in his 50s who hasn't had a lot of luck in his life. I find most things I try lead to some terrible story of misfortune!

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PresidentJoey · 17/09/2021 19:41

Tell me about your mother Wink

SisterAgatha · 17/09/2021 19:43

Hmm. What radio station do you listen to? If it’s radio 6 it’s like a community and there’ll be convo to be had there.

Last gig they went to.
Last film they saw.
I mention my crafts and running and a lot of people relate to that and if they don’t I ask about their hobbies and try and relate to that.

There is a lady at work, I ask what she is having for lunch each day as a way to relate to her as it’s always a different fast food outlet!

dudsville · 17/09/2021 20:01

Honestly, he may hate all the questions and be dreading this just as much as you are. Can you pop a film on, go for a walk, do some gardening together, make jam together, etc? When you are talking with him don't do much eye contact and face him to the side. Let him step into the space of he wants to, he may not want to!

Susannahmoody · 17/09/2021 20:02

Music? If he's that age he'll probably be a pink Floyd fan

Susannahmoody · 17/09/2021 20:03

Make jam together??!

NuffSaidSam · 17/09/2021 20:05

'make jam together'

😂

NuffSaidSam · 17/09/2021 20:07

I'm also dreadful at conversation so I'd go:

the weather
Some comment on where were - have you been here before? Or the food is nice isn't it?
Transport - how did you get here.
Then back to weather
Lockdown - how was it for you.

midsomermurderess · 17/09/2021 20:09

Let's make Jam! The poor chap would probably do a runner

DroopyClematis · 17/09/2021 20:10

The price of butter! 😉

Mariell · 17/09/2021 20:11

Ask him! I can gabble on for hours but if I meet someone who isn’t very talkative I ask them what they would like to talk about!

You’d be surprised at what people come out with and how the conversation can suddenly rev up with all kinds of things.

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