Do you take a present to a funeral?

[ElizabethinherGermanGarden]

Have never been to a funeral on my own before - I don't know the form. I've sent flowers to arrive at the crematorium and have sent a card a couple of weeks ago, but just wondering whether I need to take anything else. I don't know whether there will be a wake or just the service. Do you take a gift for the family, or a second card, or anything?

You do not take anything to a funeral.

Thank you

No, you don't take anything with you. You could check to see if they want donations to a particular charity.

No, no gifts. I've never seen cards either - they are normally sent to the bereaved family's house, as you have already done.

Sorry for your loss.

There will often be a collection at the end of the funeral with money to be donated to a charity chosen by the deceased’s family to be made in the deceased’s name. Remember to take some cash to donate (if you want to). The first funeral I went to I didn’t know this would happen and felt embarrassed that I had no money to donate.

You'd usually send the flowers to arrive at the funeral director, not the crematorium. Then they can travel in the hearse with the coffin.

No, have never taken anything to or been given anything at a funeral. You could make a donation to charity or send a sympathy card but you can't bring a bottle of wine to the service.

IME

No present
Send flowers optional
Money for collection if church
If know and close close help with food organising lifts etc is useful

Assuming bog standard UK. Don't know much about others.

No. The honoree is not in a position to receive gifts.

It depends on the culture. I've been caught out before - it's normal with some cultures to do a cash collection on the day. I don't normally carry cash and was hideously embarrassed once.

I don't think anyone will notice or mind what you bring/give, the most important thing is that you are there x

Just for interest - in Chinese culture there's a cash box and when you arrive the first stop is the cash box and you hand over your donation inside an envelope. I can't remember if it's recorded how much is given by each person but I wouldn't be surprised. For mil's funeral we donated to relevant charities but for some it could be used to pay for the funeral costs.

Card(s) sent to immediate family
Flowers to the Funeral Director, unless the family have requested family flowers only.
Money for collection (if there is one) at the service.

You’ve sent a card and flowers so no need to do anything else, often there will be a collection for a chosen charity, you could make a small donation if you wish but often this is online rather than cash on day anyway, so no pressure for you to contribute.

Nothing but do have cash and tissues on you just oncase