Getting nervous in front of ‘cool’ people 🙄

[MsWalterMitty]

Not entirely sure what is wrong with me, or whether anyone else ever gets like this?

But there’s one ‘mum acquaintance’ I bump to every now and again and I just think she’s so cool! She’s active, smart, successful, pretty, adventurous and stylish!....(She’s also slightly famous). I don’t have a crush on her but I do feel very inferior when I see her, but she’s lovely and really down to earth and should be really easy to talk to but I just get all nervous and incoherent 🙄

How on Earth can I just relax around this person?!

Get to know her better and it may be that you are able to view her in a more balanced way. I have always struggled with a massive tendency to idealise certain authority figures in my life, but very few are flawless if you really get to know them. I guarantee this women's life will have its problems and failures, and have you considered that she may similarly look up to you?!

I'm exactly the same! There are a couple of school mums I feel like this around. I want to talk to them but if I do I just worry that I've made a tit of myself afterwards. I've never been "cool" and really struggle around certain people who are confident, pretty, successful, etc. It was about 10 years before I could talk to my sister in law properly without anxiety. It's like I feel like these people are more "proper" people than I am, like I'm just pretending to be a real adult person while they're the real thing. I realise how pathetic this sounds reading back - I am actually a functioning human being most of the time 😂

@SadSongsAndWaltzes

I'm exactly the same! There are a couple of school mums I feel like this around. I want to talk to them but if I do I just worry that I've made a tit of myself afterwards. I've never been "cool" and really struggle around certain people who are confident, pretty, successful, etc. It was about 10 years before I could talk to my sister in law properly without anxiety. It's like I feel like these people are more "proper" people than I am, like I'm just pretending to be a real adult person while they're the real thing. I realise how pathetic this sounds reading back - I am actually a functioning human being most of the time 😂

This is EXACTLY how I feel!... It’s like talking to the ‘popular’ kids in school. It’s ridiculous!

@Bookridden

Get to know her better and it may be that you are able to view her in a more balanced way. I have always struggled with a massive tendency to idealise certain authority figures in my life, but very few are flawless if you really get to know them. I guarantee this women's life will have its problems and failures, and have you considered that she may similarly look up to you?!

I did try to get to know her better a few of years ago, we went out for a few day trips with the kids... but at the end of each meet I went home feeling like shit! She hadn’t done anything wrong at all, she was lovely! But I just kept re running parts of the day in my head and cringing.... despite not doing anything that anyone would consider cringy.

She probably sees the traits in you that she feels anxious about, and feels the same! I bet you are confident, pretty and successful but can't see it in yourself. Be you because I reckon that's why people love you x

@Peteycat

She probably sees the traits in you that she feels anxious about, and feels the same! I bet you are confident, pretty and successful but can't see it in yourself. Be you because I reckon that's why people love you x

Thank you 🥰