Taking my husband’s name Wwyd

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I’m getting so much flak over whether to do this or not- particularly from his family and his mum who has suggested she’d be offended if I didn’t. I do want to honour him and for us to ‘sound like’ a family, and my name is really long and hard to spell but I guess I just never really saw myself as a Dave

Will the children be Mindaves?

There was a couple on Only Connect a few weeks ago and he was Dave Verylonganddifficulttospellorpronouncecorrectly and she was *Sarah Dave. When asked she said they were married but it was easier to take his first name than last. So - there is a precedence

*It wasn't Sarah or Dave

Ah these Daves, just because they've got a telly channel :-)

I kept ex husband's name for work and parenting reasons. Had I given it enough thought beforehand I wouldn't have changed it in the first place.

Shouldn't you be Davicity, and then he has the male form Davix?

(Any other Chalet School fans here today?)

My issue is not the name I have but the name that my children have and what becomes the family name.
I married a long time ago so did the traditional thing. If I had my time again I wouldn’t change my name and would want the children to have my name.
It saddens me to see my friends who kept their own names, endured pregnancies, brunt of childcare and associated career damage - then being the only person in their nuclear family not identified by the family name. I think mothers have earned the right for the children to take their name.

My post was lighthearted- it’s clearly ridiculous for someone to take their husband’s first name