Do you call people out for bad/inappropriate language?

[HollyGoLoudly1]

I'm talking about using outdated terms that most people wouldn't use anymore. Would you always correct/mention it to the person? Would it depend on the situation?

How would you do it, what do you actually say? 'You can't say x, the correct term is y' and leave it at that? Would the advice chance depending if it was a friend, an elderly family member, a colleague, your boss?

I don't want to go into specifics because I think the actual word wouldn't mean much outside the local area and I don't want to be too outing. But there is a situation I feel uncomfortable about and I have anxiety about interactions that have any kind of conflict involved. I know I should put my big girl pants on, if you aren't part of the solution you're part of the problem etc. but it's been causing me quite a bit of anxiety so please be kind.

It’s a tricky situation isn’t it. I always pull people up when they say “that’s so gay” and I just say “what’s wrong with being gay” and they look sheepish, I don’t think the people who use it think about what they’re saying most of the time, which doesn’t make it alright but they seem willing to change.

I don’t mind swearing but I also try to call out sexism or racism but responses can be very different.

That's a good example, it's a similar kind of thing to 'that's so gay' (which I also hate).

Only to my own close relatives.
DH has a relative who uses an archaic term, through ignorance rather than malice, but I wouldn't see it as my place to challenge him.

I pretty much live and let live with language but if I hear abhorrent terms like mong or spastic I always say politely but clearly "I'd really prefer if you didn't use that word".