Tense all the time

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Anyone else feel like they are tense all day long.
I feel like from, the moment I wake until bedtime, Ifunction under a constant level of stress. It isn’t always high stress but I’ve noticed I’m always physically tense and on edge.

Is this just normal life with kids and a job. Feels like there’s no downtime.

Haha yes! I think you’ve hit the nail on the head for me.
Sadly no advice whatsoever but just here offering some solidarity by letting you know you’re not alone.

Yes, that’s me. I’m always busy and rushed.
I am always clenching my jaws. My shoulders, neck and upper back are constantly tense too.
I do suffer from anxiety so it’s all part of it I suppose.
I would love regular back massages as I’m sure it’ll help ease the tension but sadly I can’t afford that luxury.

Yes I absolutely feel this. Have felt like it since DC2’s arrival 10 months ago and pretty sure going back to work soon will exacerbate it. There’s just no downtime and I’m constantly on edge.

Sad others experience this too.
I totally relate to the tense shoulders and jaw.
I keep trying to stop, take a deep breath and relax my shoulders throughout the day.

Kids playing up at bedtime doesn’t help. I need that time after bed to desires!!!

My youngest is in bed, need to do the routine with dd2. she doesn’t need ‘putting to bed’ but she suffers with poor mental health which I suspect is a large part of the reason I feel so tense all the time. She likes me going up to say good night to her in bed and we have a little chat and usually a bit of a giggle. I’m usually shattered by the time this part of the day rolls around and I don’t do it every single night of the week (like if I’m out) but it’s a nice way to end the day.
And once that’s done I wait for the phone call from dd1 to say she’s finished work and needs picking up. I just feel like I’m always ‘on duty’. But I suppose that’s just the deal with being a parent!

how old are your kids OP?

I'm a single parent and feel like this constantly, but my DD is now 8 and things that bit easier.

But yes I do think this is parenting really to a certain extent.

Routine helps a lot because it helps me stay on top of things.

@TheChosenTwo yes I think it’s the feeling of always being on duty that gets me. Only time I can feel relaxed is after bed. I think I spent time anticipating issues too.

If your kids are sleep through the night age may I recommend syndol tablets? They loosen you way up and you'll have a LUSH sleep, but you may sleep very deeply so it won't work if your kids wake loads during the night, though I have woken in an emergency after a couple