NRP brainwashing

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No idea which topic is best for this so here I am

My DC (10 years old) came home after seeing his dad at the weekend stating that he doesn't want to get the flu vaccine. He has had the flu vaccine every year since nursery. His dad has never had any issue with DS receiving the flu vaccine.

DC states he doesn't want this because of some story his dad told him. His dad is always looking for ways to upset me and cause me distress so I have no doubt this is the root of his new found 'belief'.

He has emailed school to say that under no circumstances can DC get the flu vaccine. I will be getting the flu vaccine too as I always take it really badly otherwise and end up being off work for several weeks. I also have my partner to think about, my mum who is elderly and my two year old child.

Where do I go with this? Surely as the main carer and with DCs young age I have the final say?

Exp had done similar before to upset me. He emailed my work when he discovered DC had been invited to take part in a promotional video with me and told DC that paedophiles would be watching him and would try to find out where he lived

I've lost count of the things he has done to get to me. The latest was last week turning up to school to collect DC when he wasn't meant to (also done this previously and refused to return DC to me for the whole weekend despite the interlocutor being in place) and when DC walked home as he wasn't expecting to be collected, exp banged my door and demanded I bring DC to him and then wouldn't leave my property and kept telling me I should be ashamed of myself for letting DC walk home as I didn't know if he was safe or not.

I am sick to death of all this nonsense. It causes me so much distress and anxiety and he knows this. DC believes he shouldn't take the flu vaccine but now feels very stuck in the middle as I wish him to get it and his dad is telling him not to. He became very upset tonight at the dinner table. He now doesn't know what to do

If I tell DC to do as he wishes, chances are we all get flu and need time off work (my partners work is unpaid as no sick pay which puts us in a sticky situation) and exp feels he has 'won' and continues to exert control over me

If I insist the vaccine is done it puts DC in a horrible position. I believe he tries to keep his dad happy a lot of the time. Exp will fight this til the death. He will likely try to ke me to court over this. He tried to take me to court to stop me giving DC haircuts as he wanted to take him to a barber

Any advice on how the school will deal with this? Thank you for reading this far

I'd just ignore him. It's not for a few weeks anyway and he's clearly doing it for a reaction.
Don't respond to anything.
I'd try and get contact completely stipulated so there are no further issues.

They won't do the vaccine. A friend's ex did this, not because he was anti-vaxx but just to fuck my friend around. She had to go to court to apply for an order that overruled him, I googled the name of it and found this:

When parents disagree about the vaccination of a child, either parent can make an application to the court for a special issue order under section 8 of the Children Act 1989. The court is then tasked with resolving the dispute. The child's welfare is the paramount concern and the court will consider the welfare checklist set out in section 1 of the Act

She was told when applying that they almost always ruling favour of the child being vaccinated and its rare that they agree it is against the child's best interests to get vaccinated. She did the application herself, no solicitor needed, and had a decision really quickly. I think it was around £200 but that was a couple of years ago.

Take dc to the GP for his jab

Job done.
Just say dc felt more comfortable getting it done there instead of school.

Ok I'll not reply to him, I will ignore ignore ignore!

He stated in his text message that he has emailed school about this and he doesn't give his consent to DS having the flu immunisation but I have no idea how the school will respond.

My guess is that they won't want to touch this with a bargepole so they'll go with what he wants and ignore my consent for this to happen

I'm so tired of always having to fight every little thing. It's a monthly occurrence almost! Haircuts-ill take you to court! Flu vaccine- I'll take you to court! Don't do as I say-ill take you to court! It's constant amd so unbelievably draining.

He won't pay any child maintenance, he refuses to buy DC school uniform or pay for his school lunches, all whilst swanning around in his expensive car and not having to work because of his property portfolio. Ok I'm now ranting so I'll stop but aarrrgghhhh!!!!

I really feel for DS who is so torn and exp always brings him into it. It's so unfair on him and must be causing him so much damage

Bump

Cms?

At our school we have to return a form which I believe is sent on to whoever is organising vaccination in your local area. Our was sent before schools broke up for summer this year. The nurses then turn up at school and vaccinate the kids who they have received forms for. If you've already returned the form to school and they have sent it on, there's a good chance that his emailing is totally futile and if this is the case, I agree that you should just ignore him for now.

Spoke with school. He had called to say under no circumstances should DC get the flu vaccine head teacher will send my cos ent form with all the other kids consent forms so his only way to stop this will be through court and I very much doubt he'll take this to court!