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Do you like your neighbours?

41 replies

pilates · 08/09/2021 21:54

I have noticed there are a lot of posts about annoying neighbours on MN and just wondered what the general consensus is?

I like my existing neighbours but strongly went off one side of my old neighbours, the other side were lovely. Part of the reason we moved really.

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Beamur · 08/09/2021 21:58

My neighbours are fantastic. I'm good friends with one side and on friendly terms with the other. Get on really well with most of them to be honest. Slightly fractious with one set further down the road but even so, we try and get along! I love where I live. It will be hard to leave because of my neighbours!

thistimelastweek · 08/09/2021 22:02

Love my neighbours.

If I ever move, I want them to come too.

Arabelladrinkstea · 08/09/2021 22:04

Yes my neighbours on both sides and opposite are great!

VodselForDinner · 08/09/2021 22:04

Very much.

They’re quiet, friendly, have a cute dog who never barks and, best of all, we meet them about twice a year and get no more involved than exchanging pleasantries.

TheQueenOfDreams · 08/09/2021 22:05

No. One side are a bit awkward and unfriendly and the other side is a miserable old woman who keeps shouting at dcs and calling the police or the council about us. All nonsense.
We have some fantastic neighbours who are not direct neighbours but a few doors down and some across the road who I would class as friends now. They have the same opinion and issues with our neighbours so it’s not just us.

Dadvdtret · 08/09/2021 22:05

We are really lucky and we have always had really good neighbours. We live in a cul de sac and us and all our neighbours get on really well, talking coffees in the day, bbqs, etc. I'm so pleased and I know how lucky we are!

glitterelf · 08/09/2021 22:05

Get on great with the ones on the right the ones on the left are an absolute nightmare.

Surewhynot · 08/09/2021 22:06

We were very friendly with one side but they moved away (we’re still in touch and have visited their new place). The new people are ok but keep themselves to themselves which is fine.

We’re civil with the other side. She’s a bit difficult at times so we’ve distanced ourselves a bit but we both put bins out, take deliveries in etc.

Most of the people on the road generally help each other out and there’s a WhatsApp group where we share Ring videos or comment if there has been an attempted car break in. There’s an HA block on the road who are a PITA but won’t engage with anyone.

simitra · 08/09/2021 22:07

I bloody hate mine. They steal mail, dump rubbish, send workmen to trespass, snitch and spread gossip. The only thing I can say in their favour is that they are not noisy as they go to bed at 9 pm!

Mintjulia · 08/09/2021 22:08

Yes, mine are great. But we have large gardens with trees in between.

But then I don't mind children laughing or screaming, I don't mind people cutting their lawns or playing music, things that seem to upset so many people. I'm awake at 6 most mornings so very little disturbs me. I can sleep through the noise of next door's cockerel.

I struggle with haymaking in the field behind, satellite tracked balers and tractors working all night but it's 5 or 6 nights a year maximum.

HPandTheNeverEndingBedtime · 08/09/2021 22:11

My previous downstairs neighbours were great, we politely ignored each other other than a passing 'Hello' and I could rarely here them. They moved recently and a mum and her two young boys moved in. One of the boys has additional learning needs and she apologised before she moved in that he could be loud. It's been 3 months and I don't have any real problem with the baby screaming or the young lad having a meltdown, family noise happens. But I have a huge problem with her screaming and yelling back at them, I can hear her smacking them and calling him a "fucking retard" he is about 6. I had reported them to the NSPCC within a week of them moving in as I know if I heard the same at work I'd have to report it using our safeguarding system. When she has anyone round or is outside she sounds all sweet and light so assume she thinks I can't hear the verbal abuse.

Sagaris · 08/09/2021 22:13

We love our neighbours, on both sides of us and across the road, we feel incredibly lucky as where we lived before was dreadful!

lannistunut · 08/09/2021 22:15

Some we like, and some are just fine. None are problematic, I think that is very lucky.

Keladrythesaviour · 08/09/2021 22:16

Absolutely loved our last lot of neighbours (both side) to the point we continue to meet up even after we moved away. One of the further away neighbours in the street we had more unfavourable dealings with.

In our new house, our next door neighbours are lovely - very helpful and generous though I wouldn't describe them as friends. Much older than us, but happy to help out (as are we), take in parcels, deal with tradesmen etc. We are very lucky. Semi detached and they are super quiet.
Rest of the street seems decent and friendly but we don't have too much interaction outside of a WhatsApp group which is friendly and funny.

DramaAlpaca · 08/09/2021 22:17

They are fine, no trouble at all and we are all friendly enough while keeping a bit of distance.

kittenkipping · 08/09/2021 22:18

My neighbors are amazing. Beautiful, interesting, thoughtful people. Quiet most of the time, polite warning and often invite when they aren't going to be quiet. They pretend they don't hear me fish wife calling or even shouting at the dc. They ignore it when the gardens a jungle but compliment me when it's not. Amazing.

However they are aging and ill. And their children are awful people. Weed smoking party having intrusive and ignorant. I'm terrified of loosing Hilary and derek- not just because they are lovely, but because their awful family might move in. Or sell to another awful family. It's such a boon having decent neighbors isn't it? Makes a home

Bouledeneige · 08/09/2021 22:19

My neighbours in my last place loved me. I'd been there 20 years. For me it was a mixed bag, the wife of one was quite a busy body but overall I felt very at home with all of them and they were so very kind. My DD babysat for the family on one side and we always had a very relationship with them all. There was never any issues. It was a very wide road so I never knew my neighbours opposite. Then I moved.

I like my new neighbours. I moved into my flat in early April. Of the family living upstairs the Dad is very friendly and we chat a lot - the Mum is not as warm and the 5 yr old daughter is quite shy. (By the way, I'm not a threat to the Mum - I'm 20 years older than them. I think its more to do with cultural differences, the Mum is south Asian and maybe we don't have the same style of chat and its more the Dad who comes to tell me about house maintenance issues). My neighbour to one side is friendly enough. But my neighbour opposite is brilliant - we sort of know each other from wider social circles and she and her family have been very warm. I've been for dinner and a barbecue with a bunch of people and all our 16 -21 kids.

Another neighbour a bit further along also approached me and we will have coffee or a glass soon. Nice. Its made me feel very at home.

HerRoyalRisesAgain · 08/09/2021 22:20

My neighbours are amazing. I love them.

Lindor · 08/09/2021 22:22

No.
Really weird one side, only speak to complain about something.

Other side, he always shouted and swore at my kids when.they played in the garden. Even now if he thinks we're all out he will climb over the fence and nose around!

hellcatspangle · 08/09/2021 22:22

I'm happy enough with mine. We live in a cul de sac and we have the full range - some that we are great friends with, some that just we pass the time of day with, and a couple that are highly annoying/not very pleasant (thankfully not next door)

IJustNamedYourPenis · 08/09/2021 22:22

Neighbours now are brilliant. A smile and a hello and that’s as far as it goes. Compared to the previous neighbours who made my life a living hell for almost nine years with shouting and screaming, revving engines and playing loud music at all hours, I will take a smile and hello happily!

Nydj · 08/09/2021 22:24

During lockdowns we became closer to neighbours on one side but the ones on the other side are good too - we are very lucky!

GreenTortoise · 08/09/2021 22:24

No, he's an interfering, curtain twitching little dickhead.

flapjackfairy · 08/09/2021 22:28

We were v good friends with the neighbours one side . We have been on holiday with them a few times and had regular bbq and bonfire parties etc and socialised a lot. They moved 12 months ago and honestly I am still grieving their loss. I still feel sad every time I look out my kitchen window and they are not there.
We have kept in touch as much as you can with anyone in these strange times but it isnt quite the same.
I fully intend to keep myself to myself from now on . Friendly but aloof is the way to go from now on i think for me . I never want to go through this feeling of sadness and loss again.

Fastforwardtospring · 08/09/2021 22:31

Got a mixed bag of neighbours, over the road have become friends, then one side to us are polite, we exchange pleasantries, take parcels in, swap homegrown veg etc, the other side are downright horrible, , will be one of our reasons to move.

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