Please try and go easy on me because otherwise I will feel even more guilty and sorry for my dh. I posted a year ago about splitting with dh, we have 2 children who are between 5 and 10 without being outing. I got warned it wouldn't work as dh has always lied about money etc he is very selfish but on the other hand he does care for me and the children and I know he never means to hurt us he is just soo bad at money management.
We got back together and he was going to be open as he used to lie about his wage etc, after years of trying to save for a house deposit his parents gave us 30k it was life changing for us, he brought a dog for a couple of grand out of it which i did not want whatsoever but now the kids are so in love. I had job redundancy and so diid he so he then started investing in a hobby, I warned him please dont waste the deposit money but he wanted to make more and assured me he would profit, id say at a push 10k is tyed up which he could get back. The rest well thats been done on gambling and more hobby, 10k wa s also in an isa we couldnt touch else we would lose the government bonus of a grand, yrp he went and touched it because he got in a mess I opened a letter othweriwse he said he wouldn't have told me so i told his parents that the deposit has gone. Yes i feel awful but i am lied to non stop BUT i know he dont mean to, his family have nowfell out with him. The dreams of owning a home are gone. He has now lost hia family and his wife and kids and he is on the sick so no steady income either, I have been shit in the marriage too constantly digging and questioning him so i feel guilty lying this at his door like its all him. He has been sobbing and wanting to move forward and says i can control all the mpney and he will not lie or do anything wrong, i feel cold and done but then the other side of me thinks what about the kids without their dad, the dog, the nights come and i feel lonely! I do feel strong to leave i dont know how i will look at him happy again, I havent been happy due to years of lies building up but as i said im not perfect. So, split the family up or one last final chance? Please bare in mind you obviously all don't know him and it's easy to say leave himand I have love, he isn't a nasty person quite more like a litrle boy at times. I am so confused. I have lost my future plans of owning a home do i also lose my husband too??