Help! Present buying

[Ballbagisnotmyname]

Wise mumsnetters I need your help! need to buy a birthday present from my daughter for her father - currently no communication between the two of us (he cheated) - he’s decided he’s too busy celebrating his birthday to see his daughter on his access weekend 🙄
Need something simple and easy to post - as little effort on my part and I’ve drawn a blank! 😂😂

Gift card, pref an email one so you don't even have to post it!

Amazon voucher

How old is your DD?
Get them to make a card/picture. If she's too young to do it herself, make a handprint picture. Else ask what she wants to give him.

Get her to make a card. Stick one of her drawings or crafts inside with “to daddy” on. Job done. Why would you spend money on the cheating bastard?

Daughter is 10 - but she’s currently in the ‘I hate dad for leaving’ stage which will pass and they will be best friends again shortly so don’t want to ignore his birthday from her!

You need to stop. She's 10, don't force this on her especially when he's not seeing her that weekend now as planned.

Do not get involved unless she asks you to purchase and post something. At 10 she is more than capable of making a card and asking for money for a stamp and posting it herself.

I wouldn't bother either. I would take her to somewhere like hone bargains and ask her if she wants to get a card and small something. Toblerone is my go to. And she can take it next time he graces you with a visit.

Does he support your dd with gift buying for you?

I wouldn’t be teaching my DD to reward shitty behaviour. It’s fair enough if she was going to see him but she isn’t.

Has she expressed any wish to get a card / present? If not don’t bother. Good for you for being the bigger person in even considering it though. I wouldn’t

You are all right! I wasn’t looking at it from the point of rewarding shit behaviour. I’m more than happy to stay out of it - he can buy his own like I have to!

Is it I hate dad for leaving or i hate dad because he won't see me when he gets the chance?

She's 10, leave her to it. Maybe he'll realise that he's upset her.

(But buy a backup card and token box of chocolates in case she has a sudden change of heart when she does see him next.)

@KidsAreMean I think it’s more he doesn’t see her when he gets the chance, you are all right - she’s 10 so I’ll let her make the decision from now!