Am I being neurotic or is DH being cavalier WRT DS safety?

[Notaneuroticmum]

On holiday, in a hotel room on the 4th floor. The room has a sliding door which opens sideways as it would on a balcony, but there's no balcony just a drop. The only protection is an outer glass panel that comes up to approx my middle (I'm 5ft 3)

Above that there's nothing, so a child could easily stand on something and fall over the top and down 4 floors to the ground.

Our child is almost 4 and is autistic with a history of trying to escape. We had a scary incident a few months ago whereby he climbed out of a ground floor window and ran up the road, luckily I caught him before he was hit by a car.

I discovered tonight that the balcony door isn't key lockable, you simply twist the knob and flick the catch up and it opens. DC is obviously showing alot of interest in the sliding door.

I can't relax for worrying he's going to get up in the night and open it, let alone sleep. DH on the other hand is moaning about how it's going to be a shit holiday and how DC won't try to open it. Im being ridiculous apparently. It's ok for him he sleeps like a log, it's me that'll lose sleep over it.

No concierge on until 9am tomorrow morning so no chance of being moved tonight.

AIBU or is DH not concerned enough?

YADNBU and I felt quite sick reading your post.

You absolutely do need to be moved ASAP.

Can you arrange the room so that DS can't get to the window without climbing over you, and therefore waking you up?

is there any furniture you can move up against it?

Yanbu. Have you got spare blankets and pillows? I think I'd try and sleep on the floor in front of the doors. Hopefully you can move room tomorrow!

Not even far fetched, it was in the news not long ago a baby tragically unlocked the caravan door walked into the lake and drown.

YANBU.

Is there a receptionist? You need to be moved. Find another hotel for the night if you really must. Husband can jog on.

Think of Eric Clapton’s little boy

You don’t need the concierge to be on duty to move to a different room. There is always a night manager who can authorise that. Concierges are for arranging things like restaurant bookings, taxis, tickets to shows, not changing rooms. For that you need the night manager. Go and change rooms. You are quite right to be concerned.

Have you asked about switching rooms for the ground floor? Given the circumstances I think they would accommodate you if they could

can you wedge something between the edge of the sliding door and the frame on the other side?

I had to do this once as my mother's patio doors won't lock if they get hot and she was being all angsty about locking them. Never mind that the woman barely closes a window, or actually closes a door ever, but a nice extending mop handle satisfied her need for security for a bit.
You'd surely be able to borrow a mop or broom from housekeeping if you cannot get it otherwise secured.

The only movable furniture in here is things that would make it easier for him to step on and increase the risk if you see what I mean. Nothing that would provide any security.

I do have a pair of wrist reigns so I can hopefully keep him attatched to me in the night, itll mean v little sleep but will have to be done.

DH is huffing and puffing about how ridiculous it is. I'm really fucking angry and anxious

I've tried calling the numbers I have here for resort safety but no answer, the sheet of paper in the room says they can be contacted between 9am and 8pm.

I've been downstairs and there is no staff at all.

Nobody available at all it seems.

Called the number, got a switch board, press 1 for emergencies, pressed 1 and it just rings out then back to the switch board.

@LaurieSchafferIsAllBitterNow

can you wedge something between the edge of the sliding door and the frame on the other side?

I had to do this once as my mother's patio doors won't lock if they get hot and she was being all angsty about locking them. Never mind that the woman barely closes a window, or actually closes a door ever, but a nice extending mop handle satisfied her need for security for a bit.
You'd surely be able to borrow a mop or broom from housekeeping if you cannot get it otherwise secured.

I can't visualise what you mean?

That’s absolutely shocking, no staff! What if there were a fire? I’d be leaving and going to a proper hotel.

Is the bar still open? Staff there might be able to get hold of a manager?
I wouldn't want to stay in the room under these circumstances. Your husband is being a careless fool.

@PlanDeRaccordement

That’s absolutely shocking, no staff! What if there were a fire? I’d be leaving and going to a proper hotel.

Yeah actually. Very true.

Your Dah needs to wake up & smell the coffee!

I think she means a stopper bar.

No staff in the hotel whatsoever, I'm in one of several on a site.

I'm so angry with H, so so angry. How dare he make me out to be unnecessarily concerned. I can't actually believe he doesn't see the severity of the issue.

Can you tie the door shut with string or even sellotape. Yes keep the reins on and get moved tomorrow.

You could put a night stand or chair up against the window to block the door from sliding open.

If there is absolutely no staff I would kick DH into whatever bed DS was supposed to be using and have DS in bed with you with the wrist strap thing. Then sort out moving in the morning. Where is this hotel as that doesn't sound safe at all?!

@Ukholidaysaregreat

Can you tie the door shut with string or even sellotape. Yes keep the reins on and get moved tomorrow.

I've actually got cellotape covering the door knob already, but it doesn't provide much security and he could definitely get it off.

yes like that from @PlanDeRaccordement, it should work with any sliding door and stick....if it's longer then it's not going to lie flat but would stop the window sliding open.

steal a stick from an OAP?

You're not being U at all!