Anyone else in their 50’s with a primary school child?

[TheQueenOfDreams]

How do you get on with that?
On the one hand I feel blessed that I have my beautiful youngest dc as well as teenagers, on the other, I feel quite depressed about it.
I resent my dh too as it’s because of him that I had my dc when I did. I would have had them way earlier if it was my choice but that’s neither here nor there now.
I feel sad that my youngest dc has a parent who is over 50 at their age.
Although, it’s just a number as it hasn’t impacted on them on a practical level. I’m in London so there are lots of older mums.
I’d just like to hear other people’s experiences or just some words to help me feel more positive.

I had my ds at 45 so I was in my 50s by the time he hit year 1.

We didn't have any problems, I wasn't the oldest mum there, I worked hard to stay fit and look/dress less than my age so no-one thought I was his gran, and to be fair, most of the other mums were in their 40s so it really wasn't an issue.

The things that mattered to DS were I could sort out the updates to his computer games, I could do any of the physical things the other mums could do (sponsored runs, cycling, swimming etc), and he fitted in with everyone else in the class.

There were only 5 mums who were noticeably 'young'.

No but I will have in 18 months as youngest born when I was 44 and she's due to start in reception this week. I do feel a bit sad that I may well be the oldest Mum in her class!

It's awful that you feel sad about your age. You have a child starting school, you are in your prime, and if you take care of yourself, no-one will even notice.

Don't take any notice of the rampant ageism in our society. How does your age affect your ability to love and raise your dcs?

It's funny when you chat to a nice gal at the school gate & she turns out to be a Gran not a fellow mum... Otherwise no issues.

Thank you for your kind responses.
My dc is in yr 5 so not just starting. I do try to take care of myself but I work and need to shift a stone probably and just rushed off my feet. I’m 51 so going through all the hormonal stuff too.

DD has just started in Yr1. I'm 47, so by the time she starts secondary school I'll be 52 😫

It is a bit harder, tbh, but I suspect that my non-involvement in parent friendships in school is more to do with my slightly introvert personality than my age (dc born at 43 and 46); I do finds that I am a slightly mother-figure to some mums but again, that maybe more personality/therapist job.

I was 42 but DH was 52 when DC1 started school and retired when DC1 was 11.
It never seemed to matter until they were teenagers when it became more obvious to them that dad was older than other dads. On the other hand he had far for time for them as he was retired and happy to run them around / pick them up at ungodly hours.
Also now in their early 20s and DH is 71. Girl / boyfriends parents seem to be in their 50s.

My ds 6 starts year 2 tomorrow

I am just turned 50
I also had a dd at 17 so was the youngest at the school gate when she started !!
Feel quite relieved I now know about School Gate Bitches and keep myself to myself!! Quick smiles and hellos and on my way!!
Much less stressful ime!!

@lljkk

It's funny when you chat to a nice gal at the school gate & she turns out to be a Gran not a fellow mum... Otherwise no issues.

Or they are talking about their Mum getting older... and she's younger than you !