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I think my DF is going to die

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Mallowmarshmallow · 05/09/2021 22:44

My DF has been in poor health for the last few years, most recently having been diagnosed with cancer and treated with both chemo and radiotherapy. The treatments went well but he was left with some side effects which caused a lot of pain.

Last week he went on a UK holiday and fell ill. He was rushed to the hospital near his holiday location in a lot of pain and two days later, yesterday, had surgery on a burst ulcer in his stomach. Recent news (via his partner) is that he has now developed a 'sepsis storm' and his organs are shutting down. He has been kept sedated and ventilated since the surgery.

Apparently he was asked if he would want to be resuscitated prior to the surgery. I don't imagine that's a good sign....

He's always fought through the ill health he's had but I'm worried this is pushing him too far and he's not strong enough to fight against it.

I don't expect any response but i thought it might help to write it down somewhere. It feels like it's all so unknown, I don't know all the facts and I'm scared he won't make it....

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pontiouspilates · 05/09/2021 22:46

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Is there any way you could get to the hospital to see him? Sending you a hand hold at this worrying time x

Purplewithred · 05/09/2021 22:47

I’m so sorry, it sounds as if this is a shock despite his existing illness. Thinking of you.

PermanentTemporary · 05/09/2021 22:48

I'm so sorry. I hope you will have news soon.

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Mallowmarshmallow · 05/09/2021 22:52

@pontiouspilates unfortunately it's a part of the UK that is difficult to visit (without giving too much away) and is several hours away.

His partner travelled home when their accommodation had to be vacated yesterday and so is now also several hours away from him.

The hospital have told her there is no point her travelling nearer as he is unconscious and in ICU and she wouldn't be allowed to visit anyway.

I'm worried though that if they phone with bad news, nobody is near enough to get to him.

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Mallowmarshmallow · 05/09/2021 22:53

Actually I'm very worried about that ^, I think that's my biggest worry.

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HollowTalk · 05/09/2021 22:56

What a horrible situation for you all. I'll be thinking of you Flowers

pontiouspilates · 06/09/2021 16:13

How are you OP? Are you able to have a conversation with your Father's Consultant or a Snr Nurse at the hospital? You are in my thoughtsFlowers

Mallowmarshmallow · 06/09/2021 19:30

Thank you for your thoughts, all.

News is coming via my DF's partner who is speaking to the hospital.

Apparently they are reducing his sedation and considering taking him off the ventilator tomorrow so things are looking a whole lot more positive than they were 24 hours ago.

Last night, every time I closed my eyes, all I could think about was him laying there. I'm hoping the slightly better news might result in a bit of sleep all round tonight

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