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What's the worst neighbour situation you have ever experienced?

26 replies

WeirdArchitecture · 05/09/2021 16:19

Ive had a few as I rent! Luckily ive always had decent landlords and managed to dodge the worst kind of neighbours, but when you get a bad one, it can mark you for life!

Worst for me was living in a gorgeous house but next to a Lidl delivery bay, OMG. There were frequent midnight and 5am deliveries that shook the entire house for over 2 hours. Eventually after I left they had to construct a deadening wall which the neighbours still claim is useless.

How about you?

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delilahbucket · 05/09/2021 16:40

A family moved in next door who were on witness protection. Aside from their blazing rows and blaring music all day every day, them getting the house stormed by men with machetes at 3am was particularly memorable. Not sure what happened to them after that.

AvoidingNextdoorNeighbour · 05/09/2021 16:43

Mutual LL was evicting the chap next door, an absolute piece of shit farmer (piece of shit because the he moved to Scotland to avoid his reputation after his non farming DD took a 10 year ban for animal cruelty so dad could carry on away from England).

I worked for the LL part time as an Estate manager and basically helped organise viewings, letting sand vacating properties. I took over the job that the farmer had been doing because he was ripping tenants off by trashing vacated properties, keeping deposits and organising the cleans on behalf of LL. (aka picking up the bin bags he threw in there himself.

I was 24 maybe and the farmer tried to scare the shit out of me. As the ex estate manager he had keys to my house (I discovered much later) and my belongings would be mysteriously moved around when I was out. My gas would be turned off. Other weird shit would happen in my home. He even sent men into my house late at night (pretending that they had walked in the wrong house door) to scare me (boyfriend didn't lock my door behind him when he went home and I never checked)

I'd be brushing my teeth and turn around to see something moving in the dark. It was the farmer. He'd stand and watch me from the farm yard. I ended up doing acrobatics across the stairs, one foot on the bannister, the other across the stairs near the top on the windowsill just to pull my blind shut on an almost inaccessible window every night.
He placed a listening device under the gap of a door that connected our properties. It was an old manor type house and I lived in one of the rear converted servants cottages attached and the farmer was supposed to have installed the new wall for the LL (LL was paying of course) so I had a door that led straight into next door in my fucking living room. Of course it was given a padlock and a huge bookshelf the second I moved in. I worked from another estate address so he never actually heard anything nor found any paperwork in my house when sneaking in.

AvoidingNextdoorNeighbour · 05/09/2021 16:47

Oh and I never got proof anyone was in my house. It wasn't til much later I realised what must have been happening. I thought my boiler was broke and was convinced I was getting forgetful about where I'd left stuff. I also wondered how the hell id managed to crack and chip two glasses on my draining board with no fragments or chips in sight. Thinking back, I wonder if the intention was me not noticing and cutting myself when drinking?

Mydogisagentleman · 05/09/2021 16:52

Worst was in Switzerland. Absolutely batshit crazy woman who accused us of cooking garlic in the toilet so the smell travelled around the U bend and up to her flat.
Dangled a mirror on a piece of string from her balcony to ours so she could spy on us.
Threatened to have our DD kidnapped because she was too noisy- she was 6
I could go on

WeirdArchitecture · 05/09/2021 16:56

Some of these are insane! There's something to be said for wanting your own desert island.

The farmer one is terrifying. As for the garlic Ubend and the dangling mirror.....I hope you are better placed now.

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memberofthewedding · 05/09/2021 17:25

Id only lived in the house 2 weeks and was working at home. It has a fence around it and tall iron gates whch were locked. Suddenly I heard my plants being moved. There was a workman in my garden moving them so he could set a ladder to do work on next doors house painting the gutter. He said "Its ok next door have given me permission"

I went next door where the NDN claimed she had no idea someone has moved in. Yeah, right. You didnt see 4 burly men carrying furnture in over the course of 2 days. I went nuclear and told her if it happened again I would call the police. Over the course of the years they've done a few dirty little tricks including stealing mail, dumping rubbish on my garden, and sending around random plumbers when their drains were blocked expecting me to let them in. After the fly tipping incident they were made to clean up and reminded that at any time I can send the pictures to the local authority or put them on the internet.

My nephew and his big mate paid them a visit and said "If you so much as look at my aunt the wrong way in the future we will be back and next time we wont be so friendly." Since then they have kept their heads down and their mouths shut.

I prefer my NDN to fear me rather than love me.

HoikingUpMyBigGirlPantss · 05/09/2021 17:35

We had a farewell party as were moving to a new city, and invited our newly married neighbours round to join our large group of friends and family. A great evening was had by all and about 3pm I went in the garden to tidy up some glasses, and heard a strange noise in the dark by the shed. Foxes? Cats? Nope was the neighbours new wife shagging xBIL in shed whilst her husband and xSIL were chatting to friends in the kitchen. She even sent her DH round next day to find one of her shoes (turned up in the shed). Poor bloke.

PicardyRose · 05/09/2021 17:39

Lived next to a sort of private no-hopers hostel (people who had been kicked out of council accommodation with 14 in a 3 bedroomed terrace house) so lots of drama, police and ambulance flashing lights, big arguments etc. The last straw was when “our landlord can offer you girls jobs as escorts” - no thanks!

PicardyRose · 05/09/2021 17:40

Before HMOs were a thing.

PurplePosies · 05/09/2021 17:51

A family with 2 kids was moved in next door to me in a tenement, straight from emergency housing. From day one we could hear the kids being battered and screamed at. Then they started having all night parties, plying very young teenagers with drink, with their front door open, kids having sex on the stairs etc.

Had to get the police and social services involved, it was upsetting and angering in equal measure.

iloverock · 05/09/2021 17:57

My abusive ex bought the house next door to me. I have injunction against him. He has now moved his gf (latest victim) in.

LuluJakey1 · 05/09/2021 18:02

Victorian terrace and the bloke who owned the house next door- dodgy local businessman- rented it out to a couple with two small girls (about 4 and 5) and two cats.
The woman seemed ok. Girls very sweet. Cats cute. He seemed quiet. Neither of them worked. Within a week we started seeing him carrying booze in every day. Then we were hearing rows. Then we heard screaming rows and the little girls singing in the small bedroom at the back of the house.
Then the rows became violent. I called the police and DH knocked on the door and she came to the door crying- DH asked her to come into our house with the children but she wouldn't- she said she was fine. The children were singing in their room. Police arrived and took him away. He was back within days.
He started wandering the street drunk in his dressing gown and boxers. He came in our front garden, banged on the window and shouted abuse at us- in a broad Glaswegian very slurred accent. We kept ringing the police every time it started, who kept going round.
The rows continued and the violence and the children singing. The police said she would not confirm the violence or press charges. I rang social services concerned about the children- we realised they were singing to drown out the row and violence.The family were known to them and had a social worker.
The woman herself told me he was really a nice bloke but was having trouble adjusting after being in jail and had alcohol problems. Hmm
Then one of their cats died- it had been kicked by him and he damaged its abdomen. She gave the other one to her mother.
There was the most horrible row one night and we rang the police- the little girls were screaming and crying and he started screaming abuse at them too. This time the police arrived as it was happening and he was taken away and never came back. She was re-housed within a fortnight and our house was burgled. The landlord came to sort their house out for new tenants and found some of our nicked stuff in the loft. The police apparently arrested him again and he admitted it and along with the DV and his parole terms he ended up back in prison.
He was vile.

Hoppinggreen · 05/09/2021 18:10

We lived opposite some HA houses
Not an issue at all until The Council started using them for families or people evicted from elsewhere. We had
Someone standing on the roof of a car smashing the windscreen with a sledgehammer (drug deal gone wrong apparently)
Young woman in hiding from her gangster boyfriend as she was going to testify against him (he found her)
Very drunk/high teenager trying to jump out of an upstairs window
Very drunk/high man trying to load a too big a TV into his car boot. The TV fell on him and he lay there like a stranded beetle until the Police turned up (he was breaking his bail conditions apparently)
A child jumping up and down on the roof of my new car, I felt awful when I told his Dad and he walloped him one (which I reported)

We part exchanged the house to a large developer and managed to get just about what we had paid for it. It was a lovely house in a nice area but unfortunately we just couldn’t put up with the issues anymore. The HA people were generally not problem at all and the ones I knew were really nice but just 1 house ruined it.

WeirdArchitecture · 05/09/2021 18:19

Not an issue at all until The Council started using them for families or people evicted from elsewhere

This seems to be an issue in many places. I witnessed one area change within the space of 2 weeks due to proximity to some flats. Had previously housed mostly elderly, or disabled people, was lovely. Soon became a merry go round of police vans, arson and exploding cars.

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Hoppinggreen · 05/09/2021 19:11

Yes it’s a shame because it gives HA houses a bad name

CyberPixie · 05/09/2021 19:21

The lady who insisted I was causing a hum at night that shook her bed springs. No one else could hear it, even environmental health with all their gadgets. She didn't believe them either when they told her there was no noise and should see a Dr. So she harrassed me with various noises at night waking me at random times 5-6x a night before she moved and rented her house out threatening to put noisy people in.

Hum ladies 1st tenants were an unemployed single father with a 16yr old son, no mother to be seen. The son had multiple problems, ocd, autism, learning disabilities etc. He'd bang forcefully on walls, floors, windows every few minutes day and night. It was like constant construction work. He slammed every door as loudly as if the wind had slammed them shut over and over day and night. He'd constantly tap on the shared wall at night.

If that wasn't enough, the father couldn't cope and screamed and shouted at him for 5hrs+ almost everyday which made his banging and slamming even worse. Had to get social services involved.

Next was a very eccentric couple. The woman was very loud vocally and screeched and laughed manically at nothing even while alone. She barely slept. I'd hear her thudding about through the night as well as shrieking and laughing loudly. She was also a hoarder, it was a 3 bed, 2 reception house, big rooms just for both of them. Every room filled to the ceiling with her crap. Loads more but I'd be here all day. Hum lady who owns it got her karma though, as eccentric couple have destroyed the place.

I didn't sleep much in that place. Thankfully I moved and it's super quiet.

NotGCTUR · 05/09/2021 19:22

@memberofthewedding

Id only lived in the house 2 weeks and was working at home. It has a fence around it and tall iron gates whch were locked. Suddenly I heard my plants being moved. There was a workman in my garden moving them so he could set a ladder to do work on next doors house painting the gutter. He said "Its ok next door have given me permission"

I went next door where the NDN claimed she had no idea someone has moved in. Yeah, right. You didnt see 4 burly men carrying furnture in over the course of 2 days. I went nuclear and told her if it happened again I would call the police. Over the course of the years they've done a few dirty little tricks including stealing mail, dumping rubbish on my garden, and sending around random plumbers when their drains were blocked expecting me to let them in. After the fly tipping incident they were made to clean up and reminded that at any time I can send the pictures to the local authority or put them on the internet.

My nephew and his big mate paid them a visit and said "If you so much as look at my aunt the wrong way in the future we will be back and next time we wont be so friendly." Since then they have kept their heads down and their mouths shut.

I prefer my NDN to fear me rather than love me.

You both sound as bad as each other.
CyberPixie · 05/09/2021 19:28

Forgot to mention the large gypsy family on the other side. Used to throw human poo over into the garden, food, all their rubbish. Broken glass thrown over too.

Their feral kids tried kicking in the front door every time they went past.

They dug up my expensive new fence with a digger.

We got death threats from them for nothing. They kept parking over our drive so we couldn't get in or out. They threatened to punch my at the time 69yr old dad when he said they can't park there and told him 'you're old, you'll probably die with one punch'

OmgIcantbelieveshedidit · 05/09/2021 19:33

As a student we moved into a friend's parents house. We were renting.

One night the terraced next door neighbour had a huge fight with the wife -police turned up and took him away.
A week later he put a brick through our front windows threatened us with a knife and told us -no one calls the pigs when I'm just having a word with my missus. We hadn't even phoned the police. I left that afternoon.

itsgettingwierd · 05/09/2021 19:56

My old NDN were a little odd. The mum just had a vibe and the son was violent. I'm afraid it was towards her as well but I have no proof.

He took a disliking to my dad.

One day he smashed in the front door threatening to kill him.

He was bailed to an address 5 miles away and wasn't allowed in our road.

One day he turned up and was yelling abuse at the house and so police were called. The police went to his house he was bailed too to arrest him (this was the 6th time he'd done it) to discover that house didn't technically exist as it had burnt down 3 months before he apparently lived there.

He eventually ended up in prison and his mum moved away.

WeirdArchitecture · 05/09/2021 20:54

some of these are quite terrifying .

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CoastalSwimmer · 05/09/2021 21:23

We had a drug lord living next door. We didn't know what he did at the time, but there were lots of comings and going's at strange times of the night that we reported to the police as suspicious. Turns out they had him under surveillance already.

One night we were woken by our front door being smashed down by a team of armed police in full riot gear which was absolutely terrifying, especially for our children who were very young at the time. They'd come to our house by mistake instead of drug lord's house!

Danikm151 · 05/09/2021 21:23

Old house growing up: neighbours would constantly be shouting at each other and the tv would be so loud you could hear every word.
Police would be out at least 2 times a week from their arguments ( 1 would call the police to say their partner was threatening them)
They eventually got evicted and a couple of months later were on an episode of Jeremy Kyle 😂

weegiemum · 05/09/2021 21:26

When we bought our first house, the man who was selling it warned us about the neighbours, and how the neighbour had threatened to kill him!

We moved in a bit nervous but it turned out the neighbour and his wife were wonderful people and the seller was an utter psycho! (I'm not exaggerating!)

Jaxhog · 05/09/2021 21:32

A friend of mine's neighbour had a cannabis factory next door. She only found out when the police raided them!