Feeling emotional about wedding next year

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Having quite a small wedding, I don't have many friends and neither does DP because we both tend to keep to ourselves. I especially am more introverted than him. Future MIL has said why are we having a DJ as not many will be coming (between 25-30 people) which makes me feel awful. We want a disco and we are having one. Just feel awful because my sister is my only bridesmaid and I'm not extremely close to her. All my friends are a lot older than me who I have met through work or when I was in a choir and I only have about 3. Just always felt there should be more than one bridesmaid. The reason I won't ask them isn't because they are older, but because they would just want to be in the wedding party. Who do people normally have as bridesmaids?

I had my best friend (to look after me), my cousin (to stop Mum from panicking and look after 7yo) and a 7yo relative.

For a small wedding 1 bridesmaid who can help you get ready and keep you calm is fine.

I had my best friend and two women I nannied for as a student but are now friends. I also had two close friends who didn’t want to walk up the aisle but were surrogate bridesmaids ie helping keep me calm, get the venue ready etc.

If you want a disco, have a disco! But keep in mind that you’ll need some confident dancers to set the trend - we had a silent disco and everyone joined in but when I’ve been at other discos about half the people have danced at one time - this might feel empty if it’s 10 people and a large space.

I had one bridesmaid - it was lovely and very easy (and we choose a dress which really suited her).

If you want a disco have a disco!

We had 30 people at our wedding and were not sure about whether or not to get a DJ. We didn't in the end and it was the correct decision, and it saved us hundreds of pounds we could then spend on other parts of the wedding. Remember not everyone on the guest list will stay all evening, some of ours left quite early, and some people might drop out last minute. So it could even end being as low as 20 in the evening, unless you plan to invite more people to the evening do. Definitely have a disco if you really want it because it is your wedding but there might not be much atmosphere if there's only a few people. Alternatively, you could just play your own music playlist and have a dancefloor area if people want to dance, and don't bother with the DJ.

I didn't have any adult bridesmaids. Just my god daughter and my nephew as a page boy. Aged 6&3. They were adorable.

I had my sister (we are definitely NOT close) and my now SIL - who I adore. My flower girls were our daughters.

We had a small wedding & if most of my friends didn't have families of themselves, it would have been a whole lot smaller. Our wedding was intimate & elegant. Our wedding venue could only seat the amount of people that we invited (50) which was perfect.
If you have a venue where its bigger than the amount of people you're inviting, then maybe you need some where smaller?

Also, just remember, the day is about you and your future husband. Your wedding guests are a small part of that.