If you work FT and have DC please share your schedule

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With the Summer holidays, a new job, one DC returning to school and one DC starting school I feel our daily schedule has completely gone to pot and desperately needs an overhaul.

Would anyone mind sharing their daily schedule with me please for the morning before work and when they return home from work. So getting up, dressed, homework, meals, bath, etc please.

6:50 up shower etc
7:15/30 kids up dressed before going down.
7:30/8 breakfast (dh does and drop off as I leave then)
After school club until 5pm I collect.
Dinner- slow cooker or easy meals. 5:30/6
Reading/homework 6/6:30
6:30 play. Get packed lunches , dinner for next day etc ready
7pm - shower/bath 2 or 3 times a week not every night.
7:30 up to bed, story etc
Dd reads until 8:15/30. Ds straight to sleep

We got a cleaner, batch cook and wing it!
Good luck!

Just general panic/ it's not a surprise I've got two speeding fines in a month

5.45am, wake up, brush teeth, shower, slap some makeup on, do hair, get dressed, make bed, tidy upstairs
6.30am, go downstairs sort my work bag out, and DDs pre school bag out
6.45am, get DD up, brush her teeth, change her, dress her, give her a quick snack before leaving.
7.00am, leave to drop DD to pre school
7.10am, drive to work
7.30am, start work
4.30pm, finish work and drive to collect DD
5.00pm, collect DD and drive home, usually traffic by this point.. Assuming its a good day...
5.30pm, arrive home and give DD a light tea as she ate at 4.15pm at preschool.
6.15pm, bath time (I bath her every other day unless she's had a very messy day at preschool)
6.30pm, brush her teeth, read to her, cuddles and watch in the night garden (this has always been her going to bed cue)
6.45pm, take her up to bed and sing her 3 songs whilst we cuddle (unfortunately the same bloody songs every night)
7.00pm, put her down and she's out within minutes
7.05pm, shower, get changed and get washing together (I do washing pretty much every evening)
7.30pm, go downstairs and put a wash on and start dinner, whilst dinner is cooking ill do a quick tidy up, vacuum and make my packed lunch.. Usually eat quick things in the week.
8.00pm, sit down to eat and catch up on TV or mumsnet lol
8.30pm, wash dishes and tidy up kitchen
8.45pm, hang washing up
9.00pm, go back downstairs and chill for an hour
10.00pm, go up to bed and look at my phone for a bit
10.45pm, sleep

Then x 5 every day as I work in an office 5 days a week pretty much..

The weekends are even more full on! I'm a single parent to a 3 year old though and my house is spotless because we're barely in it during the week so don't generate too much mess.
If you have DH who shares the load then perhaps split the chores between you and take one kid each in the evenings. If you can afford a cleaner than I would get one.

I can give you mine. But I live very close to school and also work from home alot. And did before the pandemic. But do travel around quite a bit too. My kids are also 17 and 10.

6am get up. Have a coffee, sort the dogs. Go for a walk with them, quick shower.

7am get ds up, let him watch TV/play with dogs while he comes round. Check my work emails, then quick shower

7.30am give ds his breakfast. (Inbetween this I check my 17 yeat old is up, if she is at college early. Do bits of work.

8.30am make sure DS is dressed. Hair brushed, teeth brushed got everything he needs.

8.50am walk him to school. I live about 60 feet from the gate. From this year he can walk himself.

Come home work til 3pm. Usually prep dinner during lunch break.

At 3.15pm, Go get ds. Give him a snack and let him play xbox or watch TV while I am still working. Or if I don't have a meeting he comes and watches TV in the room I am in and we can chat.

Dp and Dd come home at some point. Dp usually finishes dinner or does some housework.

Finish work between 4 and 5 spend time with the kids and dp, maybe walk the dogs again.

Dinner at about 6pm. Ds then has a bath (dd showers on a morning). Then bed at about 9pm. Ds to sleep, I usually read or just relaxe until 10pm when u go to sleep.

If I am working away and leaving early, dp will work the late shift to take ds to school and mum, dad or Dd will pick up ds and bring him home until me or dp are home.

When the kids were young, exh worked earlys and I worked lates. So I would get up at 6. Get ready for work. Get the kids up sort them have them ready by 8.30am. I always packed everything the might before.

Take them to school. Exh would then pick them up. Bring them home and do the evening routine.

As a single parent before, I moved to this job. I would be up at 5am. Get ready, do bits of housework. Get ds up at 6.30am, dressed straight away. Breakfast club at 7.30am. Straight to work, til 4. Then pick ds up from after school club. Dd made her own way home. Get in start dinner while homework was done. Or run ds bath. Eat, try and spend sometime with the kids and do some housework. Then all collapse in bed by about 8.30pm.

We didn't have dogs then.

I was still single when I got this job. I also moved ds school around the same time. It made all the difference.

These are so helpful, thank you

Single parent work ft here. Up at 630. Out the door for school drop off at 745. Then drive park and walk to work for 9. Do the same in reverse at 5pm. Bedtime at 800 for kids then I work a few more hours.

I can basically describe it as up drop off work work work pickup drop off work work work. It is boring and relentless!

6.30 - me and dh up, quick cuppa.
7am - kids up (7&10), breakfast (snack only as they go breakfast club)
7.30 - DH gone to work, rest of us get dressed
7.45 - walk to breakfast club, starts at 8
8.15 I get home, log onto work.
12 - I grab some food and go back to my desk
3-3.30 - school run, 30mins round trip
3.30-5 - I'm back at my desk, kids have snack and screen time
4pm - Dh home, he helps them with homework/spellings
5pm I log off and do laundry/vacuum etc
6pm kids dinner
6.30-7.30 kids bathed and up to bed
7.30 - 8 bedtime stories
8-8.30 cook me and dh dinner
8.30 eat and watch TV
10 - shower and bed

7:00 me and 2dc (10 and 5) get up
7.40 leave house and drop dc2 at breakfast club
7.50 drop dc1 at breakfast club
8.15 get to office have a coffee and work
3.15 Dh picks dc1 up from school ( my situation is a little more complicated as dc go to different primary schools due to moving away from dc1 school and dc1 school doesn’t do afterschool club)
Dh works 6-2
4:15 leave work and pick dc2 up from after school club
4:30-5:00 put tea on and eat
4 nights out of five dc have clubs so take them various places
6:00 and any time after, showers, wash up, clean kitchen and hoover, homework and relax
7.30 dc1 to bed
9:00 dc2 to bed
And repeat every working day!

6.45 - get up, go downstairs empty washer and dishwasher. While the kettle is boiling for my cuppa I make the kids pack-ups.

7.10 - At some point during all of this they've usually woken up and come down for breakfast or I'll wake them up

7.30 - get me and the kids dressed and ready

7.50 - in the car to leave for breakfast club at 8am

8.30 - 16.30 - work. It's less than 10 min drive from home so sometimes I'll pop home at lunchtime and pop something in the slow cooker.

16.30 - leave work and collect kids from after school nursery

17.10 - arrive home and empty used lunch bags, talk to the teenagers whilst cooking tea, put a load of washing in.

17.45 - eat tea then kids chill or play whilst I tidy the pots away or hoover the mess up

18.15 - baths and showers

18.45 - PJs on and 30 mins of chill out time or tablets or games.

19.15 - story and bed

20.00 - make sure dishwasher is loaded and turned on. Washer and dryer loaded. Cup of tea made then I go upstairs and do some uni work or read.

21.30 - shower then dry and straighten my hair so it's easy for the morning.

I have lash extensions which mean I don't bother with makeup anymore and I have my own gel nail kit so I keep on top of looking polished quite easily. I force myself to keep on top of the housework and washing so that it's never a massive task that eats into my weekend

Single / co-parent

Up at 7:30
Breakfast leave for school at 8:35
Work
After school club pick up at 6 - they’ve had dinner there
2 days I pick up at 3:30 then Dinner 6ish
Bed 8ish
Chill

A lot of these sound relentless….

Oh its relentless alright. I stopped once kids in bed but of course then dh does dishwasher kitchen, I do packed lunches x3, I start work every evening except Friday at 8:30/9pm for a few hours (teacher). Its exhausting.

It’s very relentless but personally I find being organised and on top of things certainly helps me feel a bit better about it.

I only have to do two days without our nanny but this is what they look like:

7am - up, shower and dress
7:20am - wake up kids and get them dressed
7:30am - breakfast
7:50am - leave house
8:15am - drop six year old at school
8:30am - drop three year old at nursery
8:45am - start work (this only works on days I don’t have to go into London - we have the nanny on those days!)
5:45pm - finish work
6pm - pick up three year old
6:15pm - pick up six year old
6:45pm - quick dinner for kids (usually eggs or beans)
7:15pm - quick shower / bath
7:30pm - bed for stories
8pm - kids lights out
8:15pm - check emails and sort out if I need to keep working or not
9pm - dh and I have dinner - sometimes while working, other times we get to chat!
9:30pm - either tv or more work
11:30pm - sleeeeeeeep

6:45 alarm goes, DSs (8 and 5) arrive, demanding cuddles
7:00 DH showers, I supervise DSs dressing, brush DS2’s teeth
7:20 DH starts breakfast, I shower and dress
7:40 breakfast
8:00 DH leaves for work
8:20 Childminder collects DSs for school (earlier if I have to go into the office). If I’m home I throw on laundry or fill dishwasher (one task only) and drink coffee
8:50 Log on
6:00 DSs delivered back, having had supper. If there’s a club then DH or I will sort that. Reading gets done.
6:30 Screen time
7:00 Bath time (one DS in the bath the other in the shower, I help DS2)
7:30 Milk, teeth, stories
8:00 DSs in bed. DS1 out like a light (he wakes at the crack of dawn and reads), DS2 chatters to himself unless exhausted
DH is usually in by 7:30. He starts working again at 8 while I cook us dinner. Evening unfolds.

There are variations…one evening DH does the bath and bed while I’m at Pilates. Another evening DH works until 11.

It’s not exhausting because we have a cleaner and excellent childcare in place.

6.45 up, trip over cat, feed cat, make giant coffee
7.00 DC up, they have drink and dither around for a bit
7.15 DC progress through bathroom in daydream, dimly hearing me doing my speaking clock impression
7.20 I remember to check homework planner / school calendar.
7.21 test DC's hearing range (and wake all neighbourhood dogs) when I realise they need 27p for charity, a Roman costume and 1 green sock for "save Greta day"
7.30 everyone scrambles into car with most clothing buttoned and most of the essential items in their bags
7.32 realise nobody picked up the breakfast bags from the counter so screech back into the driveway and get them
7.33 blessed silence while DC chew, and my stomach rumbles
7.34 - 8.00 traffic
8.01 deposit at school gates (checking first that gates are open and school is open, let's not make that mistake again...)
8.02 head for work
Work through day, as need to use lunch "break" for afternoon pick up
3.45 lovingly greet them and pay total attention to every meaningful recount of their day (aka tune out their chatter and try not to swear at other drivers)
4.15 home. Lob food at them whenever they get noisy, while finishing my own work from home
5.30 start implausibly jolly encouragement to do their homework
5.45 start making threats connected to homework
6.30 eat, with varying degrees of enthusiasm from DC about the nutritionally balanced delights presented to them. Likewise cat.
7.30 bathroom action
8.00 - 8.30 bedtimes and sudden urgent questions from DC that absolutely could not be asked at any other time of day
8.45 load washing machine and dishwasher, reflecting which
I would save first in a housefire
9.00 chocolate and Taskmaster
10.00 intended own bedtime
11.30 actual own bedtime as previous 90 minutes disappeared in a vortex
Repeat

I'm guessing it will change when ds goes to school, but at the moment it's:

6.30am get up, let dog out, shower, dressed, hair and makeup. Kettle on

7am dh gets up and gets in the shower I get ds up and ready for nursery, dh sorts out my breakfast (usually packed into my back for when I get to work) when he's out the shower

7.45am ds and I leave to get to nursery for 8am dh takes dog for a walk and starts work (he's still wfh)

8.15am I get to work

3.30-5pm I finish work (tech 3.30, but busy with start of term)

5.30pm collect ds from nursery

5.45pm get home and get changed for gym, get a load of washing in machine, jump in car take ds to grandparents

6.30pm dh and I get to gym

7.45pm collect ds

8pm dh baths and brushes ds teeth while I prep dinner (ds eats at nursery and then GPs give a snack) and pit washing on the airer

8.30pm I go up and read ds a bedtime story while dh finishes off anything I need to do with dinner.

8.45pm kisses good night l. Dh and I eat dinner, make lunch for the next day and chill of the sofa for an hour or so, I may do some coursework or read and dh might go on his pc and game for a while.

10.30pm bedtime

Rinse and repeat 5 days a week, bar the gym for rest day on Wednesday.

Dh keeps on top of the vacuuming and dishwasher/basic cosmetic cleaning during the week as he finishes work at 4pm

I only have the one child and just try and be out of the house for 7.45 to take child to childminder or breakfast club so I can be at work for 8.15. I set alarm for 6.15 and get son up at 7. I then finish at 4.45 to pick child up from childminder for 5 and get home around 5.30 and start on my tea and husbands tea. Child gets fed at childminder. It gets more complicated when you have after school activities booked for kids or hobbies. One day is English tuition for 5.30 and one day is cubs. Then to complicate things further it’s trying to then book routine dental and GP appts for kids and yourself. Just a case of winging it most of time. So long as everyone is on time for things I don’t really care.

1 DS aged 5
5.00- DH gets showered/ walks dog
6.00- I get up and get ready. DS waked up and does reading and gets dressed with DH
7.00- DH leaves
7.00 I feed animals, give DS breakfast #1
7.30- set off and drop DS at breakfast club before I go to work
5.00- I come home, walk dog, start cooking tea
5.30- DH picks DS up from after school club
6.00- eat tea then DS watches TV
7.30pm- DS has bath, story, bed. DH marks/ plans etc
9.30/ 10ish- DH and I go to bed

We are both teachers so the upside of this schedule is that we spend all weekend and 13 weeks holidays all together.