WTF is wrong with me?

[ThisIsNotAGloveSong]

I have a wonderful husband, 2 kids I love, a job I love, but I am sitting here feeling unutterably lost and lonely, and very close to tears in public. My life is so much better than it's ever been, and yet I feel like this?

It's not unusual, something but be missing or it might just be hormones. Sometimes I feel dramatic and sad for no reason.

What do you think is missing if you really think about it? When your sad what flashes through your thoughts?

Is your husband nice? Is he boring? Have any friends? Is life boring you? Got any hobbies?

I know what you mean. I have a similar summary - a very comfortable life with only first world problems - and sometimes I despair.

Sometimes I feel panicked about whether I've completely missed the main idea and what I should really be doing/going with my life.

I think I am really just very lonely. I do have friends, and they are genuinely lovely, but nobody I could go and REALLY ugly cry on their shoulder. And I could do with doing that.

Could peri-menopause be at play?

Undoubtedly that too.

HRT. It's a lifesaver.

I will talk to someone about that.

I feel the same. On paper my life is perfect and I have everything I ever wanted. But, sometimes I feel really discontent. Not sure if it's partly due to the pandemic, my age (40s), or whether I'm just becoming a grumpy old woman but I hear you. I sway between feeling like I should give myself a good shake and talking to to feeling like I should be kinder to myself. I just feel shattered.

Man’s opinion here and I might well miss the points about HRT or similar helping, for which apologies…

I don’t think there is anything wrong - or even unusual - about the way you are feeling. How you feel is legitimate and it doesn’t matter how much is perfect ‘on paper’. The thing I would say is that our thoughts and our minds are, unfortunately, not always really ‘us’. Sometimes they are just thoughts that can mislead, dwell on one thing a little too much, feel sad for no obvious reasons. They are not always the barometer of reality we expect them to be.

If the other (good) suggestions here don’t work as well as hoped , could I recommend you speak to a good therapist to at least unpack what is driving your thinking a bit? That, combined with some exercise outdoors and a conscious effort to make some time for yourself and listing the things you are grateful for could help your thinking shift. Be kind to yourself - and hang in there.