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Ex partner

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Samwhitexx · 04/09/2021 12:25

My ex partner has been arrested a few times all for harrasment and stalking. He was balied then realised without charge due to lack of evidence. Hes had a non mol in place and that has expired. He was ringing me constantly. Turning up at my work. Following me yet always had an excuse to be in the area. He approached our daughter comming out of school with her creche teacher. The creche teacher was frightened as she did not know who he was. Hes never shown any interest in her school or chrece and he began to stand outside the school with his car boot open filled with toys. I pulled my daughter out of creche and I had to go on the sick due to anxiety. The last two weeks he was great. He even came to see daughter on her birthday and we had a conversation about how we should be able to be civil with each other to show daughter that she has two loving parents who can get along. Well my daughter then stayed at her grandparents one night for me to have a night with my friends for my birthday. He then went to my parents to try and take daughter and called the police to say they were beating her. Obviously not true. My daughter was petrified of him. I was out one hour I came home and collected my daughter. He then followed me home being very aggressive and shouting. He has also called the police on me as I wouldn't tell him where we were one evening. We had gone to the fair and for chips n I didnt want him knowing where we were. Yesterday I had a notification from daughter new class saying welcome back here are your new teachers. The TA is my exs cousin. One he is very close too. Hes down there most evenings and my daughter has only met her once when she was a baby. Im really scared now that she will be going back and telling him things or letting SS know if she turns up with a bruise ect. Im also worried if he turns up at the school she will let him take her. I had an issue with the head over this and my solicitor and IDVA had to contact the head to say shes not to go with him as hes very dangerous. I know he has 50% responsibility but when hes been running In n out of hospital saying hes going to kill himself i dont think hes safe with her alone. Hes also rang ss about my parents and made loads of accusations about frinds of mine. Could I get her removed as daughter TA ? SORRY FOR THE LONG POST

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Mariell · 04/09/2021 13:31

Personally I would change nursery/school although that may be difficult.

Ibizan · 04/09/2021 13:33

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Samwhitexx · 04/09/2021 14:11

I did think about changing but she absolutely loves it there and has made some lovely friends and its close to where I work so I only takes me 5mins to pick her up after work. The other school is way out of my way

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hashbrownsandwich · 04/09/2021 14:26

You need to speak with the school about the staff situation.

Elieza · 04/09/2021 14:28

Defo speak to school. About everything. And see what more can be done by police if past measures worked and have now expired.

Samwhitexx · 04/09/2021 14:46

Ill be speaking to the head on Monday. Shes not the easiest person to approach and hes due to be arrested again. Another non mol is being processed. The school is amazing its one of the best ill be heartbroken if I have to change her school. Plus the cousin new that was daughters school and class as dad would have said so. Hope I can get some resurence from the head on Monday

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