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Do you have to Trick or Treat in your own area?

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notinyoday · 03/09/2021 17:39

Discussions for outfit plans are underway and I just wondered if it was okay to take DS trick or treating in SIL's area? About 30 mins away by car

Nobody to go with around here. And yes, before anyone says it, we only go to doors clearly trick or treat friendly

What do you think?

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sqirrelfriends · 03/09/2021 20:42

@WinTheNight I don't think you're being very fair. I understand that when a street is generally known to be done up nicely for Halloween its likely that people will want to go trick or treating there. What I'm saying is that for the residents it can be a PITA. We still want to do Halloween but having to turn the lights off before 7 as you've run out of Costco levels of sweets is silly. Also having usually quiet streets packed with people weaving about in their cars doesn't exactly fill me with joy.

RosiePosieDozy · 03/09/2021 20:43

I don't see an issue with it.

Even going to an affluent area to trick or treat, I don't see an issue with it. It's your choice. I don't see how a couple more children is going to make someone run out of sweets so much sooner.

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notinyoday · 03/09/2021 20:57

I understand the being alone but why not sort going with friends/school friends around your area? Post on Facebook to see if you can get more people joining in with the festivities? We have a Halloween Facebook group

Didn't post before because I thought the same would apply for any child regarding cousins, but...

DS doesn't have any friends, he is disabled. And being with his cousins means I get to see familiar faces that know all about him

Adding people we don't really know into the mix wouldn't go well really, and all his fellow classmates are in SIL's town anyway really - It's where his school is Grin

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FoodIsOnMyMind · 03/09/2021 21:07

Yes. Decorated houses only. Or people we know.. We have loads round here last Yr we went thro 120 packs of haribo! And had to take Dec's down by 8pm! (started buying packs as and when to ease the cost)
Round here they go out from around 5.30 stops by 9.

DifferentHair · 04/09/2021 00:53

If I didn't know anyone I'd think about that.

But one of the nice things about Halloween is the engagement with your own community and having a chat with the neighbours. You might meet children his age who live near you who will become his friends.

Honestly if this is an area you're planning to stay in, I'd make an effort at times like this to immerse yourself in your own community rather than run off to another one.

Snugglybuggly · 04/09/2021 01:21

It's 2 months till Halloween

WinTheNight · 04/09/2021 01:38

It's 2 months till Halloween

I know, not much time to prepare but I think it’s just about doable.

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notinyoday · 04/09/2021 08:01

@DifferentHair

If I didn't know anyone I'd think about that.

But one of the nice things about Halloween is the engagement with your own community and having a chat with the neighbours. You might meet children his age who live near you who will become his friends.

Honestly if this is an area you're planning to stay in, I'd make an effort at times like this to immerse yourself in your own community rather than run off to another one.

I don't think you're really listening. Why can you not accept it when I say he doesn't have any friends? My child is disabled. He doesn't actually have the ability to form friendships like that

He is very familiar with cousins at it makes Halloween something he can get some part of if they're there with him too

And it means I can feel like somewhat a normal parent for just a few hours too, with people I know and who understand, like I've said

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FishfingerFlinger · 04/09/2021 08:28

There’s a spirit of reciprocity in trick or treating - we knock on our neighbours’ doors and our neighbours knock on ours. If you go to a different area, there is no give, just take.

If you’re joining friends / relatives you can bring some sweets to contribute to what they are giving at their house.

But I think just going to a ‘good’ area you’re not connected to is slightly exploiting other people’s generosity. It’s not a big deal, but if lots of people start doing the same you end up with the situation a previous poster has described where an area can get completely overwhelmed.

nordica · 04/09/2021 08:39

I don't know all my neighbourhood kids well enough to recognise them in costumes anyway so wouldn't know if they are local.

At least in my area, people who love Halloween and go all out with decorations are really happy for lots of people to visit. Posts are put up on the local FB group with addresses etc. If anything, people feel disappointed to not have had enough callers. I understand it may be different in some areas that have hundreds of kids though if they have a special reputation as a good area for t&t.

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notinyoday · 04/09/2021 08:46

@FishfingerFlinger

There’s a spirit of reciprocity in trick or treating - we knock on our neighbours’ doors and our neighbours knock on ours. If you go to a different area, there is no give, just take.

If you’re joining friends / relatives you can bring some sweets to contribute to what they are giving at their house.

But I think just going to a ‘good’ area you’re not connected to is slightly exploiting other people’s generosity. It’s not a big deal, but if lots of people start doing the same you end up with the situation a previous poster has described where an area can get completely overwhelmed.

I think people are imaging it to be very busy in SIL's area. It isn't. It's actually very quiet but there are quite a few houses who join giving out, despite hardly any children really in the streets

My village however is fairly busy and has a lot on etc

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footiemum3 · 04/09/2021 08:59

If your travelling to go around with others perfectly fine.

FishfingerFlinger · 04/09/2021 09:20
  • I think people are imaging it to be very busy in SIL's area. It isn't. It's actually very quiet but there are quite a few houses who join giving out, despite hardly any children really in the streets

My village however is fairly busy and has a lot on etc*

I don’t see any problem at all with you going with your SIL, hope it is a good evening for you and your son!

purplecorkheart · 04/09/2021 09:22

We are in a nice area that people drive their kids to trick or treat. Most people have stopped answering the doors now. No young kids locally anymore and the parents are rude, parking across driveways and not wanting to move to let people into their houses

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