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This is the most random, possibly passive-aggressive birthday gift I’ve ever received…

215 replies

MonicaFaloolaGeller · 03/09/2021 12:58

It was my birthday yesterday. I’m 36 and not particularly hairy of face.

This arrived in the post today from my Mother.

I mean I hate to sound ungrateful, I know it’s the thought that counts and all but… WTF?!

This is the most random, possibly passive-aggressive birthday gift I’ve ever received…
OP posts:
SchadenfreudePersonified · 03/09/2021 15:44

@Geepee71

That's her Christmas present sorted then! Prime re-GIFT material
This ^
2389Champ · 03/09/2021 15:46

My MIL bought my teenage daughter a blackhead extractor - for her birthday! Just when DD was at her most self conscious about her appearance. Then, to compound it, my mother blurted out in front of the whole family that DD was getting ‘busty” and how about she take her to a department store and get her fitted for a bra!

ScottChegg · 03/09/2021 15:48

My late MIL once gave me heavy duty wrinkle cream for my birthday. I was only about 32.

ManifestDestinee · 03/09/2021 15:49

It’s a bit ignorant and a waste

Some of the comments on this thread are awful (as well as being ageist AF)...I don't suppose it occurred to any of you malicious harpies that the woman simply thought the reciever of this gift might actually like it and appreciate it? A lot of people would.

I do hope you all are perfect present givers who never ever get it wtong.

TatianaBis · 03/09/2021 15:55

The tear indicates it's either a. picked up in TK Maxx or b. a regift.

ManifestDestinee · 03/09/2021 16:00

@TatianaBis

The tear indicates it's either a. picked up in TK Maxx or b. a regift.
Or she opened it to look, or it was damaged in transit....
ElmtreeMama · 03/09/2021 16:09

It isn't my birthday or Christmas without a hair remover gadget or weight loss book from my mum!!

kwiksavenofrillsusername · 03/09/2021 16:11

Those things are crap too. Ok on the wispiest of peach fuzz, but do a thick black chin hair and the buggers grow back blunt and look even worse. Then you have to wait to tweeze them out.

If someone gave me a facial hair remover, i’d start wearing a fake beard whenever I saw them.

Disfordarkchocolate · 03/09/2021 16:38

Once I hit 30 my Mam started on the high end face care, 20 years later and its still not my sort of thing. However, I know it was given because she knew what it was like to not be able to afford these things.

'Flawless' would definitely have been seen as an insult. Its actually just aggressive really.

Larryyourwaiter · 03/09/2021 16:45

My MIL started buying me size 6 clothes as presents. Which pisses me off more now my 13 year old is a size 6. I was a size 10-12.
When I didn’t respond by becoming the size of a child she started buying 18-20 instead.

SquirryTheSquirrel · 03/09/2021 16:45

I'd love something to get rid of my annoying upper-lip hair!

Awayfromhome448 · 03/09/2021 16:48

@santabetterwashhishands I'm dying 🤣

Anordinarymum · 03/09/2021 16:50

@SandysMam

I would actually quite like one of those!!
Me too !
TatianaBis · 03/09/2021 16:54

Or she opened it to look, or it was damaged in transit....

Wouldn't tear in the post though it would just get squashed. Who opens gifts to look?

Def regift or picked it up cheap somewhere. Hence the randomness.

HoikingUpMyBigGirlPantss · 03/09/2021 16:59

Regift it to her at Christmas Grin

CornishTiger · 03/09/2021 17:02

Do we share a mum and are you my long lost sister ?!

BoredZelda · 03/09/2021 17:02

36? I give it, oh, 3 years before you’re thinking “now, where the hell did that hair come from” 😆

BoredZelda · 03/09/2021 17:03

Some of the comments on this thread are awful (as well as being ageist AF)...I don't suppose it occurred to any of you malicious harpies

I love a good dose of MN irony.

SunshineCake · 03/09/2021 17:08

I'd like that too. Is it possible she thought it was make up? Happy Birthday 🎂

CoastalMum101 · 03/09/2021 17:08

larryyourwaiter are you my sister? My mum does exactly this. Along with comments of “of course you’re a size 6, you’re tiny. Stand next to me as I’m enormous”. She’s barely 5ft, eats once a day and runs 10 miles (at least) each day whereas I’m 5’10” and about a size 12-14. It’s infuriating.

ManifestDestinee · 03/09/2021 17:09

I love a good dose of MN irony

No irony. My insult was deserved, the others were not.

Rubytoos · 03/09/2021 17:11

My mum got a packet of supermarket smoked salmon from her friend on her birthday. All wrapped up nicely like it was a treat.

sotiredofthislonelylife · 03/09/2021 17:15

@CoastalMum101

My ex husband and I have been doing PA presents for a couple of years now. He keeps buying me fucking Willow Tree figurines and has told all his family that I collect them. I’ve now got what looks like a Terracotta Army of the faceless fuckers up in my loft. I buy him vouchers for activities for him to do with dc when he’s absolutely terrified of heights. Most recently I got him a zip lining voucher which said on the cover “someone wants you to jump off a cliff”. It’s good fun and I’d thoroughly recommend it to anyone who hates their ex but has to keep things civil for the dc
Oh my goodness - that’s hysterical 🤣🤣🤣
Hugoslavia · 03/09/2021 17:18

Well, it looks as though it has been opened, so I reckon that she's regifting it. Either that, or you need to examine your chin more carefully in the sunlight in your rear view car mirror.

RussianSpy101 · 03/09/2021 17:20

@Lollypop701 there’s a word for that! 😂