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drinkingwineoutofamug · 31/08/2021 19:56

Wasn't sure where to post this. Here or mental health.
So daughter is 23, she has medication resistant epilepsy. She has ptsd, bpd , ocd and anxiety & depression.
Takes a lot of medication. She was put forward for brain surgery but isn't brain damaged enough for her to meet the criteria for surgery.
All her hopes were dashed in a 4 sentence letter.
She kept pushing us all away. Lying. We knew something was up. She took an overdose on Thursday. Rushed to hospital, treated and then voluntary section.
While in the mh hospital she attempted to suffocate herself, cut herself up, that much she was in a suicide suit. With 2:1.
She was sedated for fighting with staff trying to take the knife off her. Then sedated again for trying to suffocate herself. Then attacked another patient.
Told in ward round she was discharged.
So we are all worried , I sat and cried at work.
Got to 7pm . Still no call off the hospital or daughter to collect.
Girlfriend phoned.
Daughter has been arrested. It transpired that you can't be arrested while on a section, so they waited till the ink was dry and police were waiting for her.
The hospital had told her as well that I was continually phoning so I was removed from contact. No I wasn't. I phoned twice since Friday. Only because she was unable to speak due to being sedated and I wanted to know what the hell was going on.
So she is now being held in a custody suit, fresh discharge from a mh hospital.
Only bits of info coming through.
She will never trust mh services again. Who would we trust to turn to.
I don't condone the violence. She was having a psychotic breakdown. The neurologist had messed with her medication that much. She was complaining of voices and noises in her head. Couldn't walk properly, mood swings and self harm.
Where do we go from here?
I feel she's been let down.

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JackieQueen · 31/08/2021 20:08

I'm so sorry about your daughter op. This sounds horrific, she's not bad, she's ill! I can't believe how she's been so let down. I can't offer much information as I don't know how these things work but I'm here for a hand hold.Flowers Have the police given you any updates?

drinkingwineoutofamug · 31/08/2021 20:19

No updates apart from she's in the holding area and not been seen yet. We don't even know if she has her medication with her. Problem she lacks capacity. I'm her advocate and no fucker will speak to me

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JackieQueen · 01/09/2021 08:07

Hi op, have you heard from anyone overnight? I really hope your daughter is ok.

drinkingwineoutofamug · 01/09/2021 08:16

Morning @JackieQueen , total radio silence. I just don't know if I'm angry and being unreasonable, or is my anger justified.

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JackieQueen · 01/09/2021 08:37

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all! Of course you want to know if she's safe, it sounds like she's very ill. Are you allowed to ring the police station or pop in to find out? Surely as her parent you should be able to find out if she is safe and as her advocate your information about her history could be helpful to them.

drinkingwineoutofamug · 01/09/2021 10:06

So police finally giving info. She will be assessed to see if she had capacity for her actions, based on the fact she had been voluntary sectioned. So I will be her responsible adult . Waiting then for a call to go to the custody suit.
What a fuck up

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JackieQueen · 01/09/2021 12:52

Oh I'm glad you eventually heard something, I really hope things work out for your daughter and that she gets the help she needs. I'm here if you need a chat Flowers

drinkingwineoutofamug · 01/09/2021 17:17

Charged with assault , doesn't seem to matter about capacity.
She's up in court tomorrow.
I've been told by my boss not to come into work.
Very mixed emotions

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JackieQueen · 01/09/2021 18:45

Oh dear, I'm so sorry, did you get the chance to see her? Will she be allowed home or back to hospital?. Obviously the violence isn't acceptable but your daughter needs the right sort of help, medication etc. I hope she is being looked after properly, you must be so worried.Flowers

drinkingwineoutofamug · 01/09/2021 18:53

Oh Jackie, I didn't get to see her as they decided to use an Imca instead. Fair enough. But they've charge her for crimes committed while under a section . I can't understand it

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peridito · 01/09/2021 20:11

It sounds as though you and your daughter have been terribly let down ,I'm so sorry.

I hope other posters might be able to offer advice ,but the thread title doesn't indicate ( to me anyway ) the true horror you're both going through .

JackieQueen · 01/09/2021 20:28

I agree with peridito, and it might be an idea to ask mn to move this to Mental Health, there might be some with more experience for support for you there.
I'm so sorry you didn't get to see her, hopefully all her history will be taken into consideration tomorrow at court. I hope she is being kept safe now.

drinkingwineoutofamug · 01/09/2021 20:31

I've got a thread going in legal which is sort of helping . Will ask to have it moved

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