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To miss the little kid stage

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rainydogday · 30/08/2021 23:21

Feeling a bit low. The last two summer holidays have been a bit different obviously to covid. But last year we managed to get away in a holiday cottage. This year a few weekends here and there. Shouldn't moan as we live in a beautiful part of the uk where lots of people to come to holiday. But....I am at my wits end trying to persuade my DS12 DD15 to do things as a family. My DH really couldn't care and is quite happy literally just watching tv. The kids on their phones all day and most of the night. When they do want me to magic up some ideas of what to do none of them can agree and it turns into an argument or someone is really grumpy, which in turn makes DH grumpy. I know they need to spend time with their friends, which they do, but this is spare day when they have nothing to do. We both work quite long hours and I used to love the time we spent as a family, now it's just awful. I miss the cute days out where a walk and a picnic was exciting, the cinema and swimming was a real treat. Even going to the beach is boring now. God it's draining trying to be the 'organiser'. I keep thinking I should just do my own thing but that makes me so sad. Is this normal?!

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Kihanxxxx · 30/08/2021 23:38

Of course it's normal to feel that way

BeetyAxe · 30/08/2021 23:41

I feel you, it’s hard when they’re older and aren’t happy just basically being together.I sympathise.

BaconAndAvocado · 31/08/2021 07:55

rainydogday
I could have written your post.

My DCs are 23 (flown the nest), 14 and 13. The teens sound exactly like yours.
“Family days out” are much rarer. They either have to involve food (bribes) or be next level - we took them to a water obstacle course last week. They loved it but it was very expensive.

Added to them not wanting to spend time with us, they constantly bicker so it’s often unpleasant spending time with them!

My answer is arriving on Saturday.......a puppy 🙂

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BaconAndAvocado · 31/08/2021 07:57

And regarding missing the little kid stage, yes I do and I would swap those times in a heartbeat.

DH sees things differently and is happy that we’re getting more time to ourselves.

rainydogday · 31/08/2021 08:07

@BaconAndAvocado

And regarding missing the little kid stage, yes I do and I would swap those times in a heartbeat.

DH sees things differently and is happy that we’re getting more time to ourselves.

Aw that sounds exciting! We stupidly got the puppy a few years back and now although they adore him they are aren't interested in walking him! They seem to be fine if take a friend along with us as a family but lots of people are busy. We have a agreed on a walk/beach (take nice food) today. Apparently it's good for pictures on the Instagram 🤣🤣 Love them really but what a rollercoaster
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purpleme12 · 31/08/2021 08:45

Aw god mine is still 7 this makes me so sad 😥

BaconAndAvocado · 31/08/2021 08:47

rainydogday rollercoaster is an excellent way of describing life with teens!
Hope you have a great day at the beach.
We also live near the beach but I’m sometimes banned from being down there if they’re with their friends 🤣

Last night DS2 14 was at a beach bbq until 8:30pm when it was dark here.
This is just the beginning......

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