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Teenager saying sexual things

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Teens1986 · 30/08/2021 11:31

Friendship wise say an 6 and 8 year old this seems like just a kiddie relationship where they can still easily have things in common and on the same/similar wave length.

But I want to know when you get a 12 year old and 14 year old does the gap widen?  I know not (all) 14 year olds do it but is it a thing that 14 year olds talk about sexual things.?   I don't know if it was a teen having  a so called laugh being really stupid or if it was said in an actual sexual grooming way.  If it was a 14 year old saying it to another 14 year old would it be seen as 2 teenagers being stupid ?  But if it's a 14 year old saying it to a 12 tear old the 14 year old could be in alot of trouble.

Sorry I'm not being clear I'm not sure how to word it. And I have heard it 3rd hand. They are both boys.

OP posts:
Seeline · 30/08/2021 11:33

I think there is a huge gap between 12 and 14 yos, but without knowing what was said, it is hard to comment on your specific point.

vodkaredbullgirl · 30/08/2021 11:37
Hmm
BeaBeaBuzz · 30/08/2021 11:39

Really confusing post, if you want opinions you’ll have to be much clearer about what was said and by who

Imnewhere1991 · 30/08/2021 11:41

@BeaBeaBuzz

Really confusing post, if you want opinions you’ll have to be much clearer about what was said and by who
Agrreed
BillyIsMyBunny · 30/08/2021 11:46

Not possible to say without more context. I think with a 2 year age gap there will be times the difference seems bigger and others it is less apparent but I don’t think 2 years is such a big gap that there are any ages it becomes inappropriate or too wide. I maintained a good friendship with my cousin (2 years difference) across our childhoods and including in our teens, I don’t remember a point where we felt on very different wavelengths.

Teenagers do joke about sexual things sometimes, and I wouldn’t see it as an instant red flag, I also think older kids sometimes try to show off in front of younger ones sometimes without thinking. Obviously without knowing exactly what was said it is hard to be sure whether it was harmless but I wouldn’t immediate assume grooming or anything serious just because sex was mentioned to a younger friend, it would very much depend on the context.

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Teens1986 · 30/08/2021 11:48

@BeaBeaBuzz

Really confusing post, if you want opinions you’ll have to be much clearer about what was said and by who
Yes I'm sorry I probably should not have posted the problem is I don't know what was actually said. I asked but the person I heard it from said they don't know. Maybe I should have left it a bit longer before posting to see if I can find out anything else
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ShuddaBeenMe · 30/08/2021 12:00

I'm lost. Maybe find out more and repost.

VeganVeal · 30/08/2021 12:37

I'd say 50-50, but only a 25% chance of that, unless it was, but if it wasnt then I'd probably not worry unless I started to worry. Its a difficult one OP

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Teens1986 · 30/08/2021 13:24

Ok sorry I will try again. Something has been said about phone sex. I have no idea if a 14 year old has been w@^$ing down the phone to a 12 year old. Or if its that he's said something like did you know that people have sex over the phone and they say dirty stuff to each other etc or if they /he was saying stupid sexual comments and laughing and being stupid.

The mum of the 12 year old finds it odd that a 14 year old wants to be friends with a 12 year old. They do talk over the phone and play games. They have not seen each other in person for a good few years apart from one time when the parent of the 12 year old was there . There have been some petty things about swearing around the 12 year old and things said from the 14 year old such as I'm not playing with you unless you buy/play xx game. So then the 12 year old downloads the game. The mum of 12 year old then says no don't download it you play what you want to not what he tells you to.

I'm finding it very difficult to work out of something very concerning has happend or not.

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YoBeaches · 30/08/2021 13:56

Sorry, still confusing. It sounds like you're saying that either 14 yr old boy has been masturbating down the phone to12 yr old boy, or he has been telling the 12yr old about phone sex?

But they haven't seen each other for a long long time, and connect via online gaming.

The 14yr old has at times convinced the younger boy to download and pay for games.

In which case, the 14 yr old is taking advantage of the younger boy and it's a friendship I would probably cut off. You don't know enough about the sexual part to make any assumptions.

You also don't sound like you're directly involved and this is happening to someone else entirely. Do they have all the right information? I'm not sure on your involvement and whether you should be posting about it given the lack of understanding of the situation you have.

VeganVeal · 30/08/2021 15:29

@YoBeaches

Sorry, still confusing. It sounds like you're saying that either 14 yr old boy has been masturbating down the phone to12 yr old boy, or he has been telling the 12yr old about phone sex?

But they haven't seen each other for a long long time, and connect via online gaming.

The 14yr old has at times convinced the younger boy to download and pay for games.

In which case, the 14 yr old is taking advantage of the younger boy and it's a friendship I would probably cut off. You don't know enough about the sexual part to make any assumptions.

You also don't sound like you're directly involved and this is happening to someone else entirely. Do they have all the right information? I'm not sure on your involvement and whether you should be posting about it given the lack of understanding of the situation you have.

Probably both need the same game to play on line. I assume 14 YO wants 12 YO to buy same game so they can play on line together

As for the rest of the OP's posts its all gobbledygook

TheWeeDonkey · 30/08/2021 15:35

If you're the parent of the 12yo I'd be trying to find a way to end that friendship. It sounds very concerning to me.

ShuddaBeenMe · 30/08/2021 15:40

Talk to your 12 year old and block the14 yo

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