Moving home

[Beebee9393]

hello, I have been struggling to sleep for a long time I’ve had some horrible things going on for me for the past few years..
I recently moved house 8 months ago with my 3 children because of the pandemic and the house I was renting was in poor condition.
It’s very far from where I used to live and I cannot cope with the area and the change. I cant sleep and I’m struggling to eat with worry. I want to go back and be near my step mum and near people I know, I thought I would be happy but it’s just not what I can deal with. I should be great full I know we have a lonely house the nicest I have ever rented. But I want to be near people , I’ve become less bothered about interior and what houses look like and desperately want to be near my family. My friend who lives near by promised she would see me and the children and I rarely see her and feel even more isolated.

I feel like I am going insane, and frightened that nobody will rent to us with me being single parent. It’s why I’ve ended up even further because I stayed with my agency. Please I need to hear something anything I am so anxious and upset and crying all the time. Thank you for your time . X

What is the problem with you moving back?

Why can’t you just do that?

I'm so sorry you feel like this .Would it help to write down the reasons that led you to making a move ?

Are you too far for visits to be feasible?

Could things get better when schools reopen? Chance to meet other parents ?

You've rented two different properties from the same agency and there's no reason to suppose they won't rent to you again if you do go back .

Home sickness and loneliness are horrible ,horrible things but they honestly do decrease . Be kind to yourself .

And if you're not eating ,not sleeping ,crying all the time please do go to the GP and discuss this .You don't have to live like this .

Hello, It's just difficult as I say I live on my own and have 3 children. It is guilt moving the children school again but I want to be near where I grew up and the people I know. I feel invisible here and I can't cope with the change. I have seen a doctor and I have people to talk to about mental health there are no services for mums who have PTSD I have been waiting over a year now for specific treatment if not longer. I think that moving will be good to be back near where I am familiar. I cant seem to adapt to the area, even the child care costs are far too high. Nobody can get to me or visit us. I go month sometimes before someone comes to see us.

If moving back to a familiar area and people you know helps with your mental health that will benefit your children and outweigh the changing schools .

I would try and move back if you will have more support there .

I'm really sorry to hear of long waiting time for treatment for you .

Thank you! and I suppose but I just feel very guilty! but life only happens once at least the kids will have has experienced moving I suppose they have had so much disruption with covid as it is.

A miserable stressed mum who can't sleep ,eat or stop crying won't be good for your children . I'm sure they'll cope better with a change of plan re schools than with you being utterly miserable .