To get her a private psychiatrist appointment

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Dd has asd and bpd diagnosed. She’s 20 a lot of trauma from bullying etc. She disagrees with the bpd and feels chronic depression diagnosis is more what she relates to or possibly ptsd. Is it worth saying a private psychiatrist? If they disagreed with the nhs psychiatrist. Would their views be taken into account?

I have both these diagnoses. I received the BPD one nearly 20 years ago and the autism just last year.

I was promoted to get the autism diagnosis for 2 reasons:

1. I attended DBT, thought one of the nurses/facilitators was a patient because she was fucking crackers. Took one look around the room at the walking ASBOs and realised these were NOT my people. Left after an hour and never returned.

2. MN said many, many ASD women misdiagnosed as BPD.

I make no reference to BPD now, only to autism which I KNOW fits me better

Fwiw, one of my oldest friends is a shrink and she reckons no way am I BPD but was fully on board with autism - and I’ve known her since we were 11!

Can you get the diagnosis formally dropped? I don’t know - but I’ve personally chosen to disregard it and just chalk it up to “bad science”.

BPD is the go to diagnosis for autistic females when the assessor doesn't have autism knowledge or experience. I'm not even convinced BPD is a valid diagnosis and many clinicians agree. Knowledge of autism in females has only taken off in the last five or so years.

I am a mental health professional. When I see BPD has been diagnosed in early 20s or younger I disregard it once the person is older. Their personality is still developing at that age and it can be an inappropriate diagnosis.
If you have the money to go private, spend it on good therapy (not psychiatry) unless she needs a medication review.

I have been diagnosed with mental illness yet have always struggled to see how it has helped me in any way. I appreciate we all feel differently about this but I have seen how the label can and does get frequently placed before the human being who is frequently in trauma and or pain. I have been in long term therapy instead. For me, a weekly place to look at how I relate to the world has been hideous, hard and game changing. Therefore I agree with @MajesticWhine

I have a similar DD who could have ended up being diagnosed bpd if we hadn’t pushed for correct assessment, has PTSD from bullying etc

Dd suffered years of poor and damaging therapy from CAMHS. Practitioners before we found a private therapist who specialises in Trauma and EMDR, it’s been a game changer and DD is finally processing things and looking forward in life

I really would recommend finding a good therapist and seeing what they unpick, DD’s psychiatrist is really happy with her progress and happy with the therapists care and diagnoses