Weddings as a plus 1 are awkward as fuck aren’t they

[Depolo]

You don’t know anyone except the actual invited guest

The whole “come and get in the photo” thing - like the bride and groom really don’t want some random in their photos for the rest of their lives

Small talk around the table

You don’t get any of the in jokes in the speeches

Feeling like a free loader all day

The couple are an affair couple so you never know, we might get some good drama

If the ex wife bursts in and says she objects I’m going to cheer

I'm totally here for live blogging the event, especially as there may be some drama. Just don't drink too much and be the drama.

Have a good day.

Yes, going as then BF's plus one when he was the best man was the worst, had to sit by myself at the reception. I'm a chatty type but it was a military wedding and I have no links whatsoever to the military also it was a long way from home so didn't feel I had much in common with anyone but they were a nice enough bunch.

I LOVE them! A chance to get dressed up. Free food and booze all day. I love the reception where you're all sitting round the table. It's a laugh.

And then the drinking afterwards. Plus, nobody knows you, so if you get hammered and make a twonk of yourself on the dance floor, it doesn't matter.

I imagine it's like being on a cruise.

It's nothing like any cruise I've ever been on!

Right nails done, surprisingly well AND I got both false eyelashes on perfectly which is unheard of

Maybe it’s going to be a good day

Make the most of it. You are going with your bf so should be fun.

Went to one as my (now) DH's plus one when we had only been together about 6 months. I would probably have declined as I am quite a shy and reserved person but a friend of mine was getting married very close by the next day so we were staying in the area anyway. It was a beautiful wedding but I didn't enjoy it at all. I did try to make small-talk with people but they didn't seem receptive.

DH was the only person I knew and the Groom's friends were all loud, arrogant city-types. They were awful. I remember one asked me to take a picture of them and then yelled at me because he didn't like the shot I had taken. DH was busy catching up with people he hadn't seen for a long time and I actually took myself off to sit on the sofa in the toilets for about an hour. I remember the father-of-the-bride made a speech lasting 45 minutes, which would have been boring enough if you knew the bride well but was mind-numbing if you barely knew here at all.

DH came to my friend's wedding the next day and also didn't know anyone but my friends seemed to make a lot more effort to include him and I made sure not to leave him alone as I knew how I had felt the day before.

I have since decined other weddings where I won't know anyone!

Live updates please OP!

Bookmarking for live updates. I'd like reports on the food and the bride's dress please

DP pondering on taking his own wine in case he doesn’t like the table wine

I’ve said no

I have no prior information about the food. DP hasn’t got a clue.

I’m hoping for a sit down meal

If you really don't want to go, by all means cry off. I wouldn't do that. I'd think of it as they like your man enough to want to get to know his girlfriend. If you decide to stay with him, these could be amongst your good family friends in the future.

It's lovely to be able to say you went to someone's wedding, it suggests either they like you, or in this case, are certainly open to being friends with you.

It's good to see him against the background of his existing friends and family. He will be at his most relaxed and true to him self. If he acts like an arse in this company, you can be pretty sure that is part of his personality.

You are not freeloading. They feed and water you precisely because they want you there. Vouchers always a good idea but don't let your self think you are not wanted.

Maybe think too how it would be for your partner. It's much more fun to go to a wedding with a partner than without.

Have a lovely time.

Not me personally but my bridesmaid had been seeing a guy for around 6 months, we invited him to our wedding. He knew about 3 people there but had only met these people on one prior occasion.

We seated him at the dinner with the folk he did know and also my gran. My gran later slagged him off, saying she didn't like him as be was 'too quiet' but had a lot of praise for my other BM's partner, who will talk to anyone. My gran wasn't keen on introverts, I told her it was quite brave of him to go to something like this when he knew next to nobody.

Fast forward many years and quiet guy is now married to friend, while chatty guy turned out to be a bellend who my other friend ditched a year later.

Hope you enjoy your day OP

I'd be surprised if there is any drama. DH and I are an "affair couple". People who didn't approve fell out of our lives very early on, long before we married. I'd expect that this couple are only going to invite to their wedding people who like them and will be supportive.

Enjoy the day, OP. Have plenty to drink and just try to enjoy it as an opportunity to spend time with your other half.

We only invited one ‘plus one’ to our wedding and the cheeky bitch didn’t even turn up!! No apology, no offer to pay for her space. So that was £60 spent on some woman I’ve never even seen in my entire life, I was so fuming. The invited guest also didn’t offer to pay. Had she said even a week earlier she wasn’t coming there would have been no charge from the venue but she just didn’t arrive.

Sorry, rant over!

Ok dress is beautiful. Very long train. Bride is gorgeous

Hope you are having a good time OP.

We've been invited to a wedding... friend of DH. I couldn't pick the bride and groom out of line up . I'm not going.

How's the Prosecco?

I'd think of it as they like your man enough to want to get to know his girlfriend. If you decide to stay with him, these could be amongst your good family friends in the future.

I presume this is the case?
I mean, weddings are so expensive, I doubt anyone is randomly asking single people to find someone to bring with them so the numbers end up even?

I've been to a couple of weddings over the years where I hardly knew anyone - I took it as a chance to get to know the people (in these cases, colleagues of dh's that he was quite close to). Didn't find them 'awkward' at all. After all, most people at weddings don't know most of the other people.

i think it's a great opportunity to meet people. went to awedding a couple of weeks ago and got vhatting to someone in similar business to me and we are planning a project together and i think she is goimg to become a good friend

It depends entirely on your partner being good at introductions and sociable. It can be the absolute key to meeting all your partners old friends and being properly integrated into their life. Or it can be excruciating.

Food was lovely, duck starter, beef main, mini puddings. Lots of wine. Speeches over with, nicely lubricated, disco soon