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Rollthetoast · 29/08/2021 09:05

Long time lurker first time poster.

My friend has recently lost her dad, it was unexpected but he was living in Spain but born and raised in London.

My friend is one of the gentlest souls I have ever met she’s kind caring and sweet.
I think she’s a little too nice at times.
I am older than her by ten years.

As a child she was adopted, she’s mid 20s now and really has abandonedment issues her adoption was not great she had a lifetime full of emotional abuse from both her adoptive parents and it was the third marriage for them both.

Each parent had adult children from their first marriages not their second.

My question is how can I help her?
The daughters from her dads first marriage are vile to her.
The reason? They didn’t want their dad to adopt a baby.
These two were significantly older than my friend call her Amy.

Amy has been lovely to them both and has said she is not bothered about money etc.
She has always been respectful but the older two simply shun her saying that they never shared a home so she’s not a sibling but they do not even treat her as a human being!
Both adoptive parents have gone and she’s alone.
She begged them to keep In touch as friends but they simply ignore her.

OP posts:
smallandimperfectlyformed · 29/08/2021 09:09

I think in reality the only way you can help her with regard to her adoptive older sisters is to listen to her when she is upset and maybe gently remind her that they don't seem to have the desire to have a relationship with her and she is setting herself up to be rejected each time she reaches out to them. That's sad, it must be difficult seeing her being hurt so many times.

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