Dd and friendships

[Mrspimplepopper]

My dd is 11, due to start high school in September.

Over the past few years she has been in a friendship group of 3. The other 2 leave my dd out a lot. Today I've had both girls over all day (again). They left at 7pm, to go for a sleepover together and my dd wasn't invited (yet again). I'm just so upset for my dd. Shes in tears at being left out as usual.

How can I help my dd? She's so incredibly sad tonight

Oh that is shit, I'm sorry your daughter is having to deal with that. I've not got any advice really as my DD was in a similar situation recently (she's only 6 though) and I had to ask for advice here. The majority of replies were to speak to the parents about the behaviour of their daughters as it was badly affecting DD. I would advise that for you in this situation as they are old enough to know exactly what they're doing.

At the same time this might be the friendship coming to a natural end as a lot of primary friendships do. It looks like it won't be the worst thing for your DD and hopefully she can form better friendships in her new school. I'd be inclined to help her with this a little by encouraging having friends round and taking up after school clubs etc.

Sorry you're having to deal with this, I know how much it breaks your heart to see your child so sad.

Thankyou for your reply. My dd is going to a different high school to those girls and I'm already trying to encourage other friendships.

I messaged the sleepover girls mother btw, she never apologised or asked if my dd is ok. She just said the sleepover was already arranged before. I'm happy that I'd never be so rude as to do the same to another child, my dd agrees. I don't understand why other parents don't care

My DD is in this exact situation, 3 is always a crowd and it won't work out long term. Hopefully she'll meet new friends at Senior school.