Loneliness.

[Justanisland]

Does anyone feel just complete loneliness in their day to day life?

I'm in my 30s. Of my few friends, most moved away and I only see one for playdates with our small DC. My family are at opposite ends of the UK and are extremely dysfunctional so even if they were close there would be no real support/relationship.

I have DP but our time together is always just either parenting/ staring at the tv. We can't get out for dinner etc because of having no family/friends to watch DC. Never have anyone over to ours.

The loneliness is unbearable. My friend or colleagues will mention things they do big family bbqs, trips with friends, dinner parties, wine with friends. None of this happens in my world.

Hi there. I often feel the same. Have probably got used to it now sadly. Just wanted you to know you're definitely not the only one.

You are not alone in this - all my immediate family no longer alive ( including a most beloved sister). Aunts , cousins literally a 36 hr plane trip away.
When you are in this situation you have to find your own tribe - that has been hard in a global pandemic!!
I found my tribe by going to a yoga class and meeting people at work.
I took up a new hobby
We also moved to a more rural area and people where a lot more friendly than the nearest city - for us a great move.
Be a friend , smile and be your authentic self.

Big hugs. I never felt lonely until I had children. I joined a pregnancy site years ago and now I have many online friends, some who I have met in real life.

Feel free to message me any time and I'll keep you company. Xx

Glad/sad to hear I'm not the only one feeling this way!
I think the pandemic just emphasized it all really.
Finding my own tribe is a good shout, I've just joined the gym so at least that's something I can join in with if I do the classes.

How old are your kids OP.?

I think loneliness with little ones is much misunderstood and very real.

Toddlers, totally agree with you. I felt I spent time being pregnant pretty alone because people tend to not invite you because your pregnant. Then your in with a newborn barely speaking to anyone all day. Then nursery fees etc mean things are tight so you still cant back into things and a long pandemic. I enjoy the odd playdates we do but it's not the same as having some autonomy as an adult.

It's really tough. The stuff nobody talks about before hand. Though it can't be prepared for reallly.

I had a few friends from antenatal classes which helped a lot but then was back at work. Gym sounds good or perhaps a class like yoga where there are more chances of getting chatting to people. Not with intention of seeking new friends (though that is nice if it happens) but just gives you some interactions with adults. Better still if they don't have kids the same age!

I'm now in a very different circumstance to back in the days of little ones but equally v lonely so totally get you. It's rubbish and quite a rut to get out of once in it.

I'm the same. Incredibly lonely. Find it very hard to make friends as I'm autistic and socially awkward. All of my friends and family live at least 150 miles away.

What age is your child? You could still go out and do things as a family such as a meal, bowling/cinema (age permitted). I find staying in is a lot worse, you get stuck in a rut and it can seem like you’re wasting your life away.