I’m so angry at my STBXH

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He took DS to Spain and DS is back with a sunburnt face

He was outside playing golf in the heat no hat, applying sunscreen only twice a day in30C + heat and no top not even a T-shirt even though I asked him to get a SPF top

Apparently I don’t know how stressful it is to take a child abroad even though I do the daily grind each day everyday and putting spf on him before the school each day

Just want to let loose at him

That must be very frustrating, of course you know how hard it is!

How old is your DS? Could he not have spoken up and got your ex to apply sunscreen or applied it himself?

DS is 10 and potentially on spectrum but if using the right type of sunscreen

He did apply sunscreen but I can knowing my ex it would have not been a proper layer and not applied several times throughout the day

STBXH has been irresponsible. There are direct links between sun burn and skin cancer.
Yes applying it is a PITA, takes a while, but it really is necessary with a child. It's not as simple as it fading in a few days.

I had similar when my XH brought our kids (13,11) back from Portugal and shouted on the doorstep "Do you have any idea how much they eat?" Given they lived with me and though they saw him, they rarely had meals with him, I think I could safely say I did know how much they ate. Which was partly why he could afford to take them on holiday and I couldn't.

He’s an arse for allowing dc to get burned. Take photos before it fades in case you need them later. And photos when it’s all peeling off.

Photographs and GP check up. It is important to get this level of neglect documented in your son's medical records. The risk of skin cancer is real. Your ex's behaviour is reprehensible. I am so sorry, you must be worried and furious. How can a parent care so little for the health of their child?

Firstly it’s important to get the context here.

EXH should have made sure that DS apply sunscreen or should have done it for him.

But how burned is he? Because there are varying degrees of sunburn, so if it’s just a bit of red, while it’s still not idea l no GP is going to do anything about that. Apply after sun and it will fade.

If however he’s burned to the point of blistering then it becomes serious.

But “my eXH allowed my DS to get sunburned” isn’t specific enough to judge how serious this really was, if at all.

To be fair, it has happened in the past that one of my dcs got a sunburn…

I agree @AlternativePerspective.

There is a vast difference between being red, a sunburn where you end up peeling away and one where you get blisters.

Also playing golf in Spain isn’t the same thing at 1.00pm or at 4.00pm. The sun intensity is very different so that, in itself, can make a big difference.

It’s peeling

We are South Asian so although that isn’t an excuse it would definitely take more for it to burn than say a fair skin so the temperature must have been high and/or they must have been outside for a long time.
Apparently there was a breeze so I’m assuming that he must have thought that the temperature was lower than it was