Am I unreasonable

[Daffodil07]

What do you do when you get invited to things as a couple but your Husband doesn't want to go. For example we've been invited to a family bbq which I really want to go to, I feel anxious about telling my Husband as I know he'll say he doesn't want to go then I'll feel guilty for going.
This happens a lot, my best friend doesn't even bother asking us out as a couple anymore as she knows that I get anxious and its hard work for me.
My Husband works away so he's only home every 2 weeks, this makes me feel even more guilty leaving him to go out while he's home.
Am I unreasonable for going out or is he for making me feel like this?

Why do you feel guilty? It's not something I'd feel bad about

My husband is similar.
I used to make up excuses such as a work emergency or him working away when he was actually sat at home because I was too timid/embarrassed to say no.
Or I'd cajole him into going and we'd both have a miserable time because he didn't want to be there.
As I have got older if we get a joint invite I ask him, if he says no I just say I would love to come but dh doesn't want to. If people ask why I say he's antisocial (the truth).
I've stopped feeling guilty about going places by myself.

Does he say you shouldn’t go? How is he making you feel guilty?

Social situations make my husband uncomfortable he will go to important events but its totally normal for me to go on my own with the kids to others
everyone that knows us has just got used to it no one is offended and i enjoy myself without having to worry about him

He doesn't say don't go but he has said in the past that he works away and why can't I go out when he is back at work, I do stick to that but it's kind of hard just sticking to his work rota, plus this is a family doo where he is invited too. It just makes me anxious which I know is mad as we only get one life. I wouldn't care he mostly sits on his own in a room upstairs watching Netflix boxsets. I need to be stronger.