Having a huge wobble today, 6 weeks on and need advice

[blackheartsgirl]

Hello again

Some of you might remember I lost my dh of days to sudden mestasitic colon cancer. I am 6 weeks on and really going through the motions if life. Weekends are awful, no words to describe the pain of missing him.

Anyway on Friday I had a really out of the blue job offer from my dh work offering me a full time position in thier company doing similar work to his (small company but lovely, they've kept in touch with me and I do have the relevant skills) it was very strange as I never knew they were advertising, they said they wanted to offer me the job first.

The question is do I take it? Knowing its going to be so hard me being there but at the same time I feel its going to be a comfort knowing he was there and working with his colleagues who are nice.

I cant go back to my current job as its too painful. I married in the hospital I work at and I feel anxious at the thought of having to go back anyway. I'm done there

Would anybody do the same, is it a good idea.

I miss him so very much. I wish he was here 😪

I think this could be a very comforting fit, a change from the hospital but with some connections already

Could very well be.
Change of routine and all that too.

I'm just expecting a huge wobble on my first day

So sorry about your husband. You still must be in shock. That's a lovely offer from the company and it seems they are very kind. You could ask to give it a trial go and if it's too painful to step back. They sound so supportive I'm sure they'd be willing to work with you adjusting.

They did say they would support me and I believe them. Just think on my first day I'll be wobbling.

It is a great opportunity though. I'd be daft to pass up on it

That's a really, really kind offer from them. I'd be tempted to take them up on it, especially if you feel like you need a job change.

Take it. Grief is crippling. There is comfort in work.

That is so lovely and - long term - indicative of a bloody great place to work. I would find comfort in being somewhere he spent a lot of time and where people knew him. If it were me I’d be mostly considering the actual job, and whether I’d enjoy my days plus my career. Best of luck to you OP xx

Thank you.
Yes the work itself will get repetitive but very similar to a job I was made redundant from last year.

I've never been 100 per cent happy at the hospital even before all this shit happened.

Yes I think I will accept 😌

It will give you a bit of purpose.
Parts of it will be familiar and you and the company have your DH in common
They will understand if you wobble and they will miss him too— not as you do obviously, but he was part of their lives too.
It will be a stepping stone at the very least and may lead to other opportunities when you feel ready.
It will enhance your skill set.

I think it sounds nice and warm.

Will you come across work your DH did? Eg old emails that he was on that end up back with you? Or something similar? If so, how would you feel about that? I wouldn’t say it’s a showstopper but maybe being prepare for some scenarios would help you feel equipped to manage any wobbles.

Good luck op

Also they will understand it when you wobble, they knew him and know your loss. I'd grab it.
I remember your wedding and I am sorry you lost your lovely dh

It's very possible I will come across work he did. Not emails as we are not office based but things like hand writing or parts he handled.

That will be hard to bear I think. But hopefully they will understand.

Sorry to read of your loss and good luck with your decision @blackheartsgirl 🌹🌸🌷