Would you be upset if your partner said he wouldn't miss you?

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My friends just bought a caravan in Wales. We was planning on going up for 4 nights soon but my partner came come because of work so it would be me our 2 year old son and two of my friends.

I asked if he'd miss us and he said no probably not. It's upset me tbh. Like really upset me.

Would that upset anyone else or am I over reacting?

How long have you been together?

Are you sure he wasn't kidding?

Not for 4 nights, no.

Well….it’s a bit blunt but, I’ve been guilty of saying similar! I love my DH but I love time by myself a lot so I don’t really miss him when I’m not with him. I DEFINITELY wouldn’t miss him just for two days.

Or even four…

Tbf, I'd be thrilled if my husband took our kids away for 4 nights. I doubt I'd miss any of them

Said as a joke?

Have you not been getting on?

Not missing you, just you or you and the child?

I love it when DH takes the children away to see family - have to admit I don’t miss them!

Little bit sensitive. You're allowed to not miss each other. You don't have to live and breathe each other every waking minute... Also... You did ask.

It’s only 4 days not 4 weeks! He’ll probably enjoy the space and quiet. I can’t imagine missing someone for 4 days

It would upset me a lot if dh said he wouldn't miss me at all if I wasn't here long term. And him saying that about a few days might have upset me a bit in the past before children. I'm so tired and stressed right now though, that a few days child and dh free sound like utter heaven. I love them dearly I just need a break and could happily spend a few days on self care and reading and chilling out without them. I would assume that he just has plans to eg watch stuff you don't like on tv and eat pizza rather than think he doesn't care about you. He knows he'll see you in a few days it's not that he's saying he doesn't want to be with you.

It’s only 4 nights. You’re not leaving for life!
It was perhaps a bit blunt but you’re not really going to be gone long enough for him to miss you.
That said, are you sure he wasn’t teasing?
It also doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care about you or enjoy the time you spend together. It can just mean he’s an independent person who can function alone for a few days!
I love it when I’m on my own for a bit!

I do agree with you all to an extent 😂 I am a sensitive person and id miss him if he went away with our child for 1 or 2 nights let alone 4!

I suppose I'm over reacting. Just would be nice to know we would both be missed 😂

I think he'll miss you when you've been away a couple of days! He's picturing chilling out and free time but I bet you'll get a big appreciative cuddle when you and dc get home

He could have humoured you but I wouldn't be upset by that. It's only 4 nights, he'll probably be looking forward to the alone time

Not for 4 nights, but I'd be annoyed if it was a week!

Yes. I'd expect my husband to say he'd miss me if I asked him, even if inside he was thinking, "Thank goodness! I can have Pringles for my dinner, spend hours in the bath, put sport on the big television, and tell my boyfriend he can stay over." Those little fibs keep our lives running smoothly

It sounds like heaven to have 4 nights not having to think about anyone else to be honest

A polite lie would have been nice. Does he get points for honesty? I would be thrilled if dh had taken our toddler away for 4 nights! I might have said I would miss him while texting my buddies and booking event tickets.

Asking him if he’ll miss you sounds a bit needy to be honest.

I’m away all the time with work, it would do my head in if DH kept on that he missed me. We’re adults, I survived all of the years before I met him and him me, a few days/nights here and there doesn’t do any harm.

@Dyrne I am needy.

I can't even contemplate asking if my husband would miss us in that situation. I just presume he wouldn't because it's such a short time I'd think he'd be too busy getting drunk and relishing in a no-children-to-mind hangover, and generally doing other shit he can't while we are here. So no, I wouldn't be offended if he said he would'nt. I think you need to think about why it's so important to you that he would say he would miss you.

@MistyFrequencies I think it would just be nice to know we would be missed no?

Not at all but we are both the same. DH used to travel with work a lot. He was responsible for recruitment in China, Malaysia, Singapore and Brunei so would go off for up to 2 weeks at a time for about 7 yearS.

My previous BF was a lovely person but was needy. We were both working and writing up our dissertations so incredibly busy. His neediness meant I had to end it. When he wouldn’t stop crying because he missed me it just made me feel contempt and I didn’t want to end up hating him.

A lot of my family live in America and Hong Kong. I haven’t seen them since August 2019. I do miss them but due to the pandemic it’s just tough.