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Low libido- what can be done.

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Nosferatussidebit · 22/08/2021 15:23

I often see on threads here that people with low libido- should do something to "fix it". Do people not believe that low libido- can be normal? Or have no cause? What can I do to fix it? I've been to the GP and there's nothing medically wrong with me, I stopped hormonal contraception, relationship is good. This has been going on for a couple of years pre-DC and then beyond. I'm no longer breastfeeding. It's consistently low. We do have sex, but not frequently. I don't want it and having it more regularly doesn't change it- I've tried that following advice on here. I orgasm quickly but don't particularly enjoy sex because my head isn't really in to it. The sex is "good" from an objective stand point. DH is lovely and doesn't pressure me and is committed to helping sort this. We've done counseling and no issues were found, both in separate and couples. I'm now at a loss of what to do. Can you buy pills? I haven't always been like this, we've been together 16 years, this has been the last 7, though for 4 of those I've been either pregnant or breastfeeding.

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pancakes22 · 22/08/2021 15:32

No advice but following as you are not alone. I put it down to breastfeeding too but nothing is restarting. I almost feel like I've got too used to not having any and my body has just shut down... I would love to have an affectionate relationship with the DH but he feels the same that we just haven't for so long that he's got used to not having any and so just doesn't have those feelings either even though we both would want to. It just feels forced without having those feelings in the first place and worrying if the other person is just thinking I don't fancy this!

ChirpyChirp · 22/08/2021 16:08

My libido was very low after having DC/breastfeeding. I found reading erotica helped to kick start it.

Also, going back to work (I was a SAHM for a while). Men at work would sometimes be a bit flirty with me, and this helped remind me that I was a woman as well as a mother/caregiver/finder of all the lost things... (I realise this sounds a bit awful, hopefully it makes sense?!)

Nosferatussidebit · 22/08/2021 16:22

@ChirpyChirp

My libido was very low after having DC/breastfeeding. I found reading erotica helped to kick start it.

Also, going back to work (I was a SAHM for a while). Men at work would sometimes be a bit flirty with me, and this helped remind me that I was a woman as well as a mother/caregiver/finder of all the lost things... (I realise this sounds a bit awful, hopefully it makes sense?!)

Yeah that makes sense. Unfortunately this has been going on pre-kids, so it's not breastfeeding related, and I'm no longer breastfeeding. And I work full time and always have, though no-one is flirty with me!
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