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Have you ever been upset about losing something?

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lannistunut · 21/08/2021 16:23

I have been searching for about three hours now for two lovely books of my child's primary school work, and I think they must have been thrown away or something. I am so sad, it has made me cry. I can't understand where on earth they could be.

I don't really know how to stop looking, but there is nowhere else to look. I know I have seen them in the last six months, but beyond that I can not remember. We have sorted lots of things out in that time and I wonder if a mistake was made Sad.

Have you ever lost something and felt very upset too? I have never had this before, the things I have lost were either not sentimental/important or, like when I left my phone at the station, recovered.

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PalmarisLongus · 21/08/2021 16:28

Yes, lots of times.
I find it worse when something I love breaks though. I could almost cry sometimes because of it.
I had a favourite mug I'd had for years and years. Given to me by an ex that meant a lot to me. When I dropped it, it smashed. I was inconsolable for the rest of the day and very sad for the next day.
I still miss that mug.

BrieAndChilli · 21/08/2021 16:50

I lost a necklace that DH gave me on my first Mother’s Day. It was a blue forgetme knot.
I lost it a few years and it still upsets me. I’ve tried to find a replacement but have never found the same one again. It wasn’t expensive just sentimental.

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lannistunut · 21/08/2021 17:26

I have also broken things I love, I remember once dropping a bauble one of the kids had decorated at the pottery place, I still miss that every single Christmas!

I don't keep much, so the things I do keep are very special

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PieceOfString · 21/08/2021 17:28

When I was 2, my favourite teddy at the bank, got that back.
My husband lost his wedding ring at the beach, we were both gutted about that. Spent a day there with a metal detector but no joy. 😭

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lannistunut · 21/08/2021 17:33

I love those stories where a ring turns up years later @PieceOfString, maybe that will happen for you

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BananaMilkshakeWithCream · 21/08/2021 17:41

I would stop the search for now and if it’s there to be found you’ll find it. I once found a long lost ring in a big bag of balls (like the ones for a ball pit) It must have come off when I last put the balls away. It was missing for about 6 months. Another ring was lost for about 3 weeks when it fell off the sink and into a bucket in the downstairs loo. DH was so gutted when he thought it was lost and had already bought a replacement. He now wears both 😂

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lannistunut · 21/08/2021 17:46

I have stopped but I feel all dejected. I think maybe it was a tip run error Sad

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LizzieSiddal · 21/08/2021 17:46

I lost my engagement ring. I was so upset at the time and still miss it now, 25 years later! I did get a new one but it just wasn’t the same, either to look at or because it was not the first one! I keep thinking I want to get a copy of the first one made again, but that won’t be the one I lost either, so what’s the point? (it was antique 1930s sapphire and diamond and I’ve never seen anything like it, I always look in antique shops to see if I can find one).

Some things are irreplaceable unfortunately. Sad

MaisyMary77 · 21/08/2021 17:47

Yes, I have a silk cravat that belonged to my late dad in the ‘60s. Really retro-red Paisley! It’s lovely. My dnephew is really into retro clothing and I told him he could have it. I knew he’d look after it and really appreciate it.
I went to get it but it had gone. I tore the house apart looking for it. Gave up after a couple of months and thought it must’ve been lost. I was devastated! 5 years pass, was sorting out my garage last week and there it was-slipped between some boxes and the wall. A bit musty and dirty but undamaged! I cried when I found it as well! Grin I now can’t bring myself to give it to my nephew-not sure what to with it, might frame it. Smile

LizzieSiddal · 21/08/2021 17:48

And I meant to add, I’m so sorry you can’t find your dc’s work. Its such a horrible feeling, like an ache which won’t go away.

Planetsandstars · 21/08/2021 17:50

More things than I care to mention Sad Flowers

dontcallmelen · 21/08/2021 17:55

Yy stopping for a while, sometimes stuff turns up in random places when you’re not actively looking for them fingers crossed.
I lost a crucifix that was given to me by my parents on my eighteenth birthday ( had it 44 years) about six years ago on holiday in Thailand I still shed a few tears even now, the chain was still round my neck but had broke & the crucifix must have slipped off unnoticed.

PricklesAndSpikes · 21/08/2021 17:58

I had a tiny, jointed teddy with a crown that my Nana gave me when I was a teenager. It was an Esso give away I think that she'd had for years. I took it into an exam at school as a good luck charm but fell quite ill and had to be taken out of the hall (was ill before I started but thought I could get through it). When I went back for my stuff, my pens etc were still there but someone had snaffled my little bear. Still upset over 30 years later... Sad

ablutiions · 21/08/2021 18:03

My DH, was helping me move house not long after we got together. He was so brilliant and helpful and took lots of back bin bags to the tip, including one that had ALL of my childhood teddies in it ShockSad

I still get sad thinking of them in landfill all these years later. Would never tell
him though. He was devastated at the time and would be really sad if he knew I still grieved them.

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lannistunut · 21/08/2021 18:09

So sorry for all your lovely lost things Sad

like an ache which won’t go away yes exactly this @LizzieSiddal

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RevolvingPivot · 21/08/2021 18:13

I took off my wedding ring and went to pick it up 20 minutes later and it had gone. All the other diamond rings I took off were still there apart from that one.

SciFiScream · 21/08/2021 18:35

My mum died when I was little. I don't have much that was hers. I had a measuring tape of hers. She'd written her name in it in her beautiful writing.

I lost it at Costco about 16 years ago. My then fiancé went and looked and looked for it while I was crying my heart out in the car.

Never, ever found it. Sad

NormanSicily · 21/08/2021 19:13

Two things that I really wish I'd not lost I gold ring bought for me by my Mum for my 18th, was heart shapes and flowers in a band I wore instead of a wedding ring on my wedding finger when i was pregnant and fingers were swollen. It came off on a beach. Also a gold bee necklace bought from Crete and modelled on a bee pendant found at Knossos. Living in hope that will surface in a box some day. Sigh

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