DH weirdly judgey about makeup

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Treated myself to some new mascara today and obviously was a 3 for 2 so bought a couple of other bits.
I don’t generally wear makeup unless I’m going out but I wanted to try out my stuff.
Came downstairs and DH immediately says ‘are you wearing makeup?’ and not in a ‘you look nice’ kind of way. When I said yes, no further comment. I feel really weirdly judged and uncomfortable and like I look like mutton. Does anyone else’s DH react weirdly to things like this or should I LTB?

So he was just surprised that you were wearing make up because you don't normally? He's done nothing wrong, surely?

I had a twattish ex that thought I was trying to impress other men whenever I wore makeup, did my hair, etc. Could it be that?

I'm not sure why men have this view about makeup (some men) but you can tell they just don't like it.

Yeah also agree with the other poster some men feel insecure as though your trying to get attention outside of 'home'

@girlmom21i think it’s more about tone- agree I’d expect him to notice but with no comment on whether it looks nice or not it’s left me feeling edgy

He noticed you were wearing it because it was out of the ordinary, but presumably he doesn't think you look better with it on. That's fair enough. You wear it for yourself, so don't worry what he thinks.

It's rude he didn't say it looks nice or anything. Wear it everyday if you want to and don't worry what he thinks.
He could politely say he prefers another colour or something if it genuinely didn't suit you but not say anything after making it obvious he has an opinion.

What’s he like when you wear make up to go out?

@Edmontine similar! Normally makes ‘observations’ that I’m wearing makeup and will occasion say to the kids ‘mummy looks nice’.
I’d like to add I’m not a heavy makeup person even when made up as I prefer a me bit better look

Patio him first then LTB.

Just kidding. I wouldn't read too much into his remark.

Best interpretation - startled and confused because the make up suggested you were about to go out, when no plan had been made?

Worst ... Well you’ve probably seen enough threads ...

@Edmontine

Best interpretation - startled and confused because the make up suggested you were about to go out, when no plan had been made?

Worst ... Well you’ve probably seen enough threads ...

Yes this. Why not ask him?

Just to add, if my husband came downstairs wearing a nicely ironed top I might raise an eyebrow and ask if he is going out. Because it is unusual. I still prefer him ironed than crumpled.

Your dh might just be wondering where you are going

It sounds like he’s disapproving. That’s not nice for you.

Did you not just say,
"Yes, what do you think?"

If you said a flat "Yes" then that kind of ended the conversation before it began didn't it?

LTB. bit extreme

You should have said "No, I woke up like this" and sashayed away.

Why should he have said you look nice? Maybe you don’t look any worse or better with makeup, but you came down with makeup on in the middle of the day when you normally don’t wear any so it would have been noticeable.

Why is it people on here always have to assume that if the man doesn’t comment or gush he’s obviously controlling and doesn’t like it because it makes him feel insecure.

I don’t wear makeup ever. If I came downstairs with makeup on I imagine people would notice purely because I don’t usually wear it.

But when I dress up or wear nice jewellery or clothes etc I do it for myself, not for the comments of other people.

As long as he didn’t say you looked awful there really is no big deal here.

Maybe he just thought you looked different - not better or worse.

If he'd have said 'you look better without it' you'd be upset.
If he'd have said 'oh, thought you looked different', you'd be upset.

Sometimes it's better for them to just say nothing.

Did you ask for his opinion?

I don’t think it’s bad. It might be that simple that he thinks you are more beautiful with your natural face.

I don’t like the idea that someone should be automatically complimented for wearing make up. I know it’s nice to have a compliment when you’ve made an effort but really it’s quite nice that someone likes you without any zhuzh.

Was it one of those situations where what ever he said would be wrong? So 'you look lovely today in the make up '='you usually look rough thank god you are wearing make up at last'. Sometimes these things are a minefield.

Thanks for all comments. I just felt some sort of follow up to the initial comment was standard and I didn’t expect it to necessarily be positive. Suspect slightly hormonal and over sensitive.
Anyway tis sorted now and we’ve had a nice dinner out. 🙂

Early on, my dh told me he didn’t like me wearing make up/nail varnish. I was horrified, I mean, nobody has ever told me not to do this! I made a major fuss, he has never mentioned it again. If I want to dress up, wear make up, I damn well will! It isn’t anyone else’s right to tell me different.