single mum with covid

[stephi78]

i messaged my boys dad when he had them over night, that i tested positive with covid and he swore at me and would not have the boys while i have covid he brought them straight back and im on my own and seeing to the them . one of my boys has autism too. im really sick with it and dont know where i stand can i make him have them and if not what can i do and what happens if i end up in hospital?? any advice is welcome

Sorry to hear this.

The good news is if you’re double vaccinated you’re unlikely to get severely ill. I would try and have a back up plan in place just in case. Do you have a friend or grandparent who could step up in an emergency?
As awful as your ex is, if you were admitted to hospital, I doubt he would let your kids stay home alone. He’s just saying that to upset you.

You can’t make him, unfortunately.

I had Covid earlier this year, was ill, had to look after 3DC incl. one with ASD.

I spent the first two weeks in bed, ordering mostly takeaway and my eldest (13) was making basic lunch time meals. The next two weeks I was either on the sofa or in bed. Another month on and I could only do sitting down activities and couldn’t walk far. I now have long Covid and it’s fucking crap.

hi no i dont have anyone at all ...no family ect that can help me , just really hard seeing to a 3 yr old and a 6 yr old while poorly im stuck and still running round after them .. i just feel so very low now like i cant do it any more and sadly the boys dad isnt nice at all and just sending mean messages one after the other 😢

So he sent them back to you knowing you had covid? That's really unfair on his own kids.

Do you have a local Facebook group you can ask if anyone can get some ready meals in for you?

Hi there - I’m a LP too, and had covid at the start of the pandemic (as did my little boy). He sailed through it. I was rough for a week, very rough for another, then had 2 weeks of nasty coughs and back/rib pain. But we got there! It was a lot, but we did- and you will too.

I appreciate it’s much harder with 2, and one with additional needs, but here are some things that helped us:

• accept the kids will either get it or they won’t. You cannot control this now. Ventilation is good, cleaning heavy touch points is good, but let’s face it, if you’re a single parent of a young child and one of you gets it? Probably best to accept you’re all in it together. If you have concerns about your child’s health (mine is asthmatic and often struggles with viruses etc) may be worth giving doctor a call to see if you can do anything to help your child proactively (in my case doctor suggested immediately upping steroid inhaler dose. May not be the same for everyone).
• get a pulse oximeter from Argos or Amazon so you can monitor your O2 levels for peace of mind. If they start to look low, (check online for good levels) call 111. If you can’t afford it, your GP may be able to supply one (some can and will do this).
• sleep as much as possible. If the kids sleep you sleep. If they won’t sleep- then make a safe space somewhere in your house, and doze alongside them at their quietest times.
• keep meals as simple as possible. Make use of take away if you can afford. If you can’t, then sandwiches, pasta, soup. Failing that, snacks. You just need to get through the roughest part (probably a week for me).
• have a friend or family member call to check on you morning and evening. Just a quick “hello you’re okay? brilliant” is great. If you don’t answer, they need to seek help.
• Fuck the housework. If the kitchen and bathroom are clean enough- that’s enough.
• drink lots of water. Staying hydrated is good for fighting any illness, and a small way to look after yourself.

Finally- don’t be hard on yourself. Whatever you need to do to get through the next week or so is fine. Don’t worry about getting dressed, doing activities, cleaning, being a brilliant mum. Aim for “everyone fed, everyone in one piece” and no higher.

Solidarity with you. Look after yourself.

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thank you for your message and advice, i will definitely try most of what you said .. i am a person that cleans and tidys all the time and still been doing the same but i think your right i shouldn't worry. thank you for your help x😊