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Anyone else not like holidays ?

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recall · 20/08/2021 17:47

I just don’t like going. I’m 50, three DC 14,11 and 10. Separated from their dad now, I live in my dream home on a farm ....in the middle of the countryside. I don’t feel the need to get away ....I feel the need to stay here and enjoy it.

Was just wondering if there are any others who don’t like going away ?

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Parky04 · 20/08/2021 17:51

Hated going away with my stroppy teenagers. Love going away with just me and DW.

Amboseli · 20/08/2021 17:52

I'm liking it less and less. I used to love it and lived for my holidays.

Even now I'm all excited when we book it but start to get cold feet nearer the time. I think for me it's worrying whether everyone will enjoy it and it will live up to expectations and won't have been a waste of money.

I research and book all our holidays. DH never does it. Maybe I should pass the responsibility over to him. Very much a 1st world problem I know.

Haven't really answered your question though!

FlyingScott · 20/08/2021 17:55

I enjoy being in my very average home, but I also love a change of scenery, a different view from the windows and most of all not having the pressure to get useful things done (like I do when I’m at home).

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recall · 20/08/2021 17:55

Yes ! There’s that pressure when people aren’t liking it and I’ve booked it.

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Babyroobs · 20/08/2021 17:56

I always like the thought of going away but the reality is just exhausting. I always want to come home after 3 or 4 days.

Bookridden · 20/08/2021 17:59

I really enjoy a change of scene, but by day 5 of a week away, I'm really looking forward to coming home. The day I get home, get unpacked, have a shower and sleep in my own bed again is lush; being away really makes me appreciate my home comforts.

Sprig1 · 20/08/2021 17:59

Maybe it's a farm thing. I really struggle to find somewhere that is as nice as staying at home.

BreakfastOfWaffles · 20/08/2021 18:01

It very much depends on where you go away to. I think a change of scene can be very restorative as a chance to step away from the usual daily routines. I also have found that foreign holidays that expose you to new ideas and cultures are very valuable in broadening horizons. I would, however, be inclined to think it wasn't worth the money or hassle if a holiday was neither of those things.

LanisHouseLot · 20/08/2021 18:02

I liked it a lot before kids. Since kids it does feel like it has all of the responsibility of home, but with none of the familiarity and safety meaning you can just switch off for a bit. I suppose it depends on where you've gone, but it can easily so descend into exhausting tedium with a big dollop of guilt that you're somehow spoiling it for everyone by not Having A Wonderful Time!

I don't book anything as a result. We just go on day trips, camping, or to visit people for weekends. I'm quite happy with that!

LubaLuca · 20/08/2021 18:09

You're booking the wrong holidays if you can't see the point in them.

I don't enjoy British holidays because that's just the quotidian made less easy than it is at home.

I'm really pining for a holiday right now Sad

Almostwelsh · 20/08/2021 18:16

I am a single parent with 3 kids too. Holidays are hard work. Even now they are older. There is always at least one complaining about something, I never feel they appreciate the holiday really and would rather be out with their mates. All the organizing of trips, meals etc falls to me, all the driving.

Eating out even is hard work as someone never likes where we've chosen. An all inclusive somewhere hot with a pool is ok. Everything else is just stressful. It might be different if I had a partner to provide some help and some company.

Amboseli · 20/08/2021 18:32

@Babyroobs I always want to come home as soon as I get there! It takes me a while to get into it. We haven't had any disastrous holidays really but it's so much money, it's always a worry.

I'm looking forward to being able to go away with just DH.

Rainbows89 · 20/08/2021 18:33

We are away at the moment. We live in a big city so I have really enjoyed being in the countryside.

I have enjoyed it but teen DS has not.

You don’t have to go away though! If you love where you live then that’s awesome!!

museumum · 20/08/2021 18:36

I love holidays. Home always has “jobs to do”. I can’t even imagine a life where I’m so on top of everything there aren’t outstanding jobs at home. How do you manage it???

GoodnightGrandma · 20/08/2021 18:39

Ive always loved holidays abroad, and at one point I was going four times a year, but since lockdown I’ve changed my mind.
I have a nice house in a lovely position, and I’d rather be here with my dog.
I’m dreading my DH wanting to book something.

Champagneforeveryone · 20/08/2021 18:45

I've always looked forward to it but got similarly anxious in the run up. TBF the planning is 100% up to me so there was always that added pressure.

We're recently back from our first week away in two years where DH (who would never go away given the choice) ruined a good portion of it by moaning and sulking which is a whole other story

We're supposed to going away for a couple nights next month for his big birthday, and I'm currently not planning on going anywhere (our initial plans have been cancelled) as I'm so pissed off about this behaviour.

I have fantasised about going on my own in the past, and am definitely considering it now.

stripedbananas · 20/08/2021 18:45

My favourite holidays on my own with the DC were Mark Warner ones. We all had so much fun keeping busy and meeting new people. We always came back so refreshed and happy.

At the moment though as they're mid teens I've been quite happy not taking a holiday with them this year or last year.

Although last year I'd booked a lovely apartment in a great looking hotel in Turkey but of course that was cancelled which was a shame.

Right now though I really feel like I don't have any desire to travel for first time ever really and we're all quite content at home with little trips here and there to friends and family

MrsDThomas · 20/08/2021 19:07

OP im just like you. Very rural. Holiday location, so i dont see the need for one.

I hate lying in the sun, its boring. Sitting doing nothing on a beach sounds awful.

DH doesn’t like it neither. Kids gave been abroad with school doing things and going places we couldn’t do nor arrange. So they haven’t missed out.

Mommabear20 · 20/08/2021 19:20

Depends on the destination for me. Have always hated beach holidays, they just feel like a lot of effort and money to sit on hot sand and stare at water. City breaks or things like Disney, universal etc are more up my alley

user1471554720 · 20/08/2021 20:31

I used to love city breaks or scenic hols before dcs. Since having 2 dcs, hols are hard work. Even though dcs are late primary age, and I have dh, all the organising, packing, booking etc falls to me. I feel I can't be carefree. I only do an all inclusive to Spain with a day at a theme park with them. I have to go into the pool with them. I can't just sit and read for a while. They have to be doing sonething the whole time. I have to pay for the 4 of us myself as dh doesn't care if we have no holiday and won't pay. I find hols harder than being at home and they cost a fortune.

I have enjoyed the hols from work this year and last year. I will do small household jobs but I may take an hour in the afternoon to sit and read or walk. We get nice treats on and go on daytrips. I would never feel that just because I am at home, that I have to keep doing household jobs from morning til night. I keep on top of the basics and do one or two extra jobs each day.

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