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Urgent - need advice re terminally ill neighbour

17 replies

RoseOneTwo · 19/08/2021 18:58

This is a bit specific, but posting in the hope someone might be able to advise.

Neighbour is terminally ill and has weeks to live. Wants to die at home and is about to be discharged from hospital (within 48 hours) and palliative care team are going to set up a hospital bed and equipment at his home. He needs his old bed and various other bits of furniture removed from his flat to make space. He is old, no relatives or other help, on benefits and a council tenant. I’m involved as a friendly neighbour.

I called up the council to see if they could help but was told they will only remove furniture from outside the property, but wont up to the fifth floor and remove it for him.

What does neighbour do? He can’t afford a removals company. I thought the palliative care team would have some ideas, but the nurse didn’t know what to suggest. Surely somebody in the council can help, but not sure who to contact next.

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LimeSodaTwist · 19/08/2021 19:00

Do you have a local Facebook group? We’ve had similar requests posted to ours and people have been happy to help out.

Ohshittt · 19/08/2021 19:01

I would imagine it may be a job for social services? Well not their job as such but their job to help him find a resolution? I hope it's sorted soon though. What a stress he doesn't need 😢 you sound like a lovely neighbour.

Babyroobs · 19/08/2021 19:02

Maybe social services can help or somewhere like Age Uk may have volunteers who could help. ultimately hospital social work team or discharge team should make sure the discharge is safe which it won't be if he can't fit his hospital bed in.

MadeinBelfast · 19/08/2021 19:02

Would someone like the British Heart Foundation come and collect it for their shops?

MacmillanMO · 19/08/2021 19:03

Social services (ask to speak to the Duty Social Worker).
Or Macmillan?

ImFree2doasiwant · 19/08/2021 19:03

Is it fir the charity shop? British heart foundation will collect. Probably others. ymca too I think.

Post on a local page asking for help?

CornishTiger · 19/08/2021 19:03

Social services could support with a removal company.

Quickest way will be to advertise for help on Facebook. Someone will be kind enough to help out.

FleasInMyKnees · 19/08/2021 19:04

Can the hospital social worker sort this out, or try Facebook or your local community group, maybe a local house clearance company would offer their services.

Mistymountain · 19/08/2021 19:05

I was going to suggest a local facebook group as well, I'm sure someone would respond. British Heart Foundation collect furniture, they have a website where you can check if they offer that service in your area.

MeredithGreyishblue · 19/08/2021 19:05

Facebook community group? Ours would rally, no doubt

SUPsUP · 19/08/2021 19:05

Is there a CrossFit gym nearby? They’re usually a friendly bunch who like lifting heavy things - see if they can Marshall a few members to come abs move it out for him?

NoSquirrels · 19/08/2021 19:06

Just ask anyone you know to come and help get the stuff outside.

If he’s dying at home, who’s providing care a d will it be adequate? Just checking it’s been considered if he lives alone and no relatives etc.

ivykaty44 · 19/08/2021 19:08

I would try a local facebook page and ask about someone collecting and taking away

try homeless charity as they will sometimes collect

also at the same time try social services - but sadly don't hold up much hope

the gent should have a social worker from the county council to help, but in reality how much they can do is questionable

do you know if Marie curie or macmillan are aware? are district nursing going in each day?

AndSoFinally · 19/08/2021 19:09

The occupational therapists attached to
The palliative care team can make recommendations. I'm surprised they haven't already done a home visit to assess?

ivykaty44 · 19/08/2021 19:09

Just ask anyone you know to come and help get the stuff outside.

it might be worthwhile asking this on facebook - a request for strong people to move items outside ready for council to remove at later date - people will usually rally round if they know the circumstances

Mamamamasaurus · 19/08/2021 19:17

A local charity shop? Would neighbour be OK with the items being listed on freegle / free cycle?

Grinch48 · 19/08/2021 19:38

Has he got a social worker
My dads in a care home and is going home and because we don’t agree with it we refused to assist him doing that
So his social worker is arranging for a medical bed to be put in place and a mini kitchen stuff in the living room so that he can make food

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