Can I ask all cake-makers to keep me in mind?

[Suprima]

I recently miscarried a much loved, much wanted, much missed baby. I think of them everyday and I always will.

They should have been born in early December.

If you run a cake-making business, or even make cakes as a side hustle- could you please write me down in your diaries early December and PM me? When you get an order in, I would like to buy a little boy or girl their birthday cake anonymously.

I’ve thought about calling shops near me, but I can’t bring myself to say it aloud. This way feels better.

Thank you

Oh that’s a lovely idea

Sorry for your loss OP

That's a really lovely idea and I hope it helps you to process your grief. so sorry for your loss.

If you don't mind the suggestion - consider emailing your local food bank or other local charities helping families in need to find opportunities to do something like this where it will make an even bigger difference? Nice though it would be to anonymously pay for an order that is being placed at the right time, that does restrict the benefit to a child whose parents could already afford an expensive handmade birthday cake, whereas there are a lot of children who won't get a cake at all on their birthday, or maybe might get something for £1.99 from Morrison's if they are lucky.

I like to do Christmas gifts in a similar sort of way in menory of the babies i lost (many years ago) - there's several charities that help charitably minded donors to buy a Christmas gift for children who would otherwise get nothing. I'm not aware of any similar system for birthdays but it might exist.

I'm very sorry. I, too, have lost a baby. The grief is strong.

I hope your grief is eased a little by good news in the near future.

@KihoBebiluPute

That's a really lovely idea and I hope it helps you to process your grief. so sorry for your loss.

If you don't mind the suggestion - consider emailing your local food bank or other local charities helping families in need to find opportunities to do something like this where it will make an even bigger difference? Nice though it would be to anonymously pay for an order that is being placed at the right time, that does restrict the benefit to a child whose parents could already afford an expensive handmade birthday cake, whereas there are a lot of children who won't get a cake at all on their birthday, or maybe might get something for £1.99 from Morrison's if they are lucky.

I like to do Christmas gifts in a similar sort of way in menory of the babies i lost (many years ago) - there's several charities that help charitably minded donors to buy a Christmas gift for children who would otherwise get nothing. I'm not aware of any similar system for birthdays but it might exist.

Thank you for your message. I do already donate to the food bank, and my local women’s refuge too.

This is more for me. I love birthday cakes. I have a certain cake from a certain place that gets bought for me each year. I love the candles and the sparklers and the ridiculously sweet and thick buttercream. I end up eating half of it myself. I always make a fuss of friends and my partner having cakes for their birthday too, even though they don’t have my childlike obsession with ‘having a cake’.

I can’t buy a birthday cake for my own child so I would like to buy one for someone else’s.

There's a charity called 'Free Cakes for Kids ' that you might also be interested in- we make cakes for children who wouldn't otherwise get a birthday cake.

There are local branches all round the country - you could find your local one on Facebook and sponsor a cake.

I'm so sorry for your loss

I am so sorry you lost your baby, OP.

Here's an organisation, branches all over the UK who make birthday cakes for children whose parents can't afford one, I thought of them in terms of sponsoring a cake perhaps:

www.freecakesforkids.org.uk/