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Feel like such a loser

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Iamfour · 18/08/2021 17:24

I stopped working in 2018 when I had a baby. I wanted to stay home with him for a couple of years and then go back to work; that didn't happen because of the pandemic. I've been applying for jobs for a while now and in the last few months, I've had four interviews but no offers. I was really hopeful about this last one but I was just notified that I didn't get it. I am so sad. I just want to curl up in a ball and go to sleep.

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Sleepingdogs12 · 18/08/2021 17:30

It is really hard to put yourself out there and then get a knock back so good for you that you've kept going. There are so many reasons for not being successful often because someone else is earmarked for it. You ve done well to get interviews. Did you get feedback and chase them for the outcome. You have to chase applications that aren't short listed in case you've been rejected in error. It is really hard but you will get there. Is there a way of being in employment doing anything while you look.try not to take it personally.

poullou · 18/08/2021 17:36

I have no practical advice but you are absolutely not a loser.

I bet your son thinks you're great.

Mintjulia · 18/08/2021 17:40

You aren't a loser at all. It took me months last year.

There are 950,00 job vacancies in the U.K. at the moment. Ask for feedback, tell them you are still interested if another vacancy arises ( we've had two new joiners not show up this month), and then move on.
You'll have a new job by the end of September xx

Mindymomo · 18/08/2021 18:59

My DS applied for loads of jobs after graduating. It was soul destroying. He then joined a couple of agencies, who were so much better, helping him. Don’t give up, the right job is there waiting for you.

Galassia · 18/08/2021 19:08

Having confidence in yourself will come across well in interviews.

Don’t think of yourself as being a loser as you will give off that vibe in your next interview.

Sometimes you are not picked for a job for many different reasons and most of them are nothing personal about you so hold your head and be confident.

Don’t forget that any job you are likely to go for will have many applicants who don’t even get to the interview stage so you did well.

Keep on applying.

OryxAndCrake11 · 18/08/2021 19:14

Just here to say that I feel exactly the same, I work part time since having DC in 2018 and have applied for 6 promotions and haven't got any of them. Feel like I'm stuck in such a rut and am a loser who will never earn any more Sad but I'm going to keep applying and so should you! We can do this.

Original poster
Iamfour · 23/02/2022 23:38

Just wanted to update that I got an offer today! It took a long time, in the end there were seven interviews, but I'm really pleased.

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JellybabyGina87 · 23/02/2022 23:46

Well done, that's amazing.

ReturnfromtheStars · 23/02/2022 23:49

Congrats 🙂 It also took me me long after a similar length of time off with kids and had to start small.

Sexybexi · 23/02/2022 23:55

Well done on getting the job. If in that situation again absolutely curl up in a ball and have a sleep you are allowed to feel sorry for yourself if you don't get the job. Sometimes it's ok to acknowledge you are feeling sad

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