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Would you report someone for "joking" about carrying out a mass shooting if they have access to a gun?

25 replies

tapwaterand · 17/08/2021 22:17

Even writing the title I am thinking yes I should.
Trying to stay vague. This happened before the most recent awful mass shouting. Which has made me think again about it.
A friend was in a relationship with this person. This person has access to guns through work/owns guns/works with the public. The person told friend I joking way (though I'm not sure how joking and I don't know anyone who would joke like that) that if she cheated on him he's shoot her, then go to his/her work and shoot as many people as he could then shoot himself. she has cheated on him and he doesn't know. They have since broken up, after a domestic incident. He was abusive (ish) but not physically. He still has access to guns. But this happened about year ago.

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EssexLioness · 17/08/2021 22:20

Personally, yes I would

ghislaine · 17/08/2021 22:20

I would and I have. It was taken seriously by the workplace and the police.

ineedaholidaynow · 17/08/2021 22:20

What do you mean abusive (ish)?

ChiefInspectorParker · 17/08/2021 22:23

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unim · 17/08/2021 22:24

Yes, I would definitely report this.

I wouldn't expect anything to be done on the basis of this, but at least it would be on the record and if there were other red flags it might add to the whole picture.

idontlikealdi · 17/08/2021 22:26

Yes I would. I wouldn't want that on my mind if something happened.

tapwaterand · 17/08/2021 22:26

What is that person lost their job though? And I am also worried about the other person knowing that I had informed someone and then losing that friend or making things worse for them.
I think maybe I'm being a coward but also thinking is it THAT big a deal..? At first I thought it really was but now they have broken up I don't know

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Queenoftheashes · 17/08/2021 22:27

In light of recent events especially, I think I’d absolutely report this and would be surprised if it wasn’t taken seriously.

Fedinbed · 17/08/2021 22:27

Yes I would.
Dh has a gun licence and they asked a lot of questions about relationships and disagreements

Queenoftheashes · 17/08/2021 22:27

What if you say nothing and he does shoot someone?

Lavenderpillow · 17/08/2021 22:28

Yes you must report it. What if you didn’t and something happened?!

tapwaterand · 17/08/2021 22:29

I don't know why I'm thinking twice about reporting. I don't want it on my conscious and I don't know why I am finding the decision so stressful I think because he will possible lose his job. I wish I hadn't been told any of it.

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MotionActivatedDog · 17/08/2021 22:29

This is definitely something their employers need to know at least. The fact they have guns outside of work means the police should know too.

Workyticket · 17/08/2021 22:33

Yes I would. Your piece of information may well not be the first one. It's pieces that make a full picture.

I've reported concerns about someone at work. Not gun related but a serious thing based on small niggles I had about him.

He's no longer around - disappeared very soon after my safeguarding meeting. I've not been given any info about how my suspicions were handled (and I don't want any) but I assume my concern wasnt the first raised about him

Muddydoor · 17/08/2021 22:46

Yes definitely.

HollowTalk · 17/08/2021 22:48

God, yes, definitely!

Spongeboob · 17/08/2021 22:48

Report. It's the right thing to do.

unim · 17/08/2021 22:52

I really doubt that this person would lose their job just on the basis of this - but it would make sure the employer can keep an eye on what is going on, and keep others safe. If they did lose their job you can bet this would not be the only reason.

spotcheck · 17/08/2021 22:58

In those circumstances, yes

If you were having a coffee with a friend who had a similar sense of humour, and , I dunno, said that the crowds at Tesco on Sunday morning were giving you urges.... Probably not funny, but I would report it.
Yours, yes,

spotcheck · 17/08/2021 22:59

*wouldn't report the bad Tesco joke.

WOULD report yours

LemonRoses · 17/08/2021 22:59

Situation and wording dependent. It would be pretty shabby taste but possibly not indicative of intent.

Workyticket · 17/08/2021 23:02

A mass killing was potentially stopped near where I live because a neighbour reported something that the lad put on Facebook. Something I'd probably have ignored.

He's still in prison 8 years later - he had guns, pipe bombs and a detailed plan etc when police arrived at his house

alexdgr8 · 17/08/2021 23:03

doesn't matter, don't need to analyse intent or not.
just report it.
you can do it anonymously i believe.

bonfireheart · 17/08/2021 23:13

actearly.uk/

Durbeyfield · 17/08/2021 23:16

I would absolutely report that, yes.

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