Is it weird I don't want a wedding/party

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So me and my husband got married in lockdown with 2 witnesses, husband really wants a party/blessing now restrictions are lifted. Is it strange that I don't want one. One of the main reasons is because I don't feel I'd have enough people I'd invite. Years ago I had more people I'd invite but they were more acquaintances than close friends. I had a lot of work colleagues I got along well with and a lot of acquaintances I'd go out drinking/socialising with who I'm no longer close with after moving/having children. I have a small family and around 9 close friends who I see fairly regularly (some more regularly than others) but the thought of getting them all together gives me anxiety, as they mostly only have me in common. This is why I've never wanted to have birthday parties, baby showers, hen do, wedding parties for myself, though I enjoy other people's. Is this strange/unusual? I guess some people have a large friendship group but I just don't now. I feel like will I look back and regret this but I just don't think I can face it. Husband has a lot more people he'd invite but really a lot of them are more acquaintances from hobbies/work/people he grew up with as we live in the area he grew up.

You sound lovely. 9 friends is plenty.

There's nothing wrong with you - planning a wedding party is exhausting and not an essential part of a marriage. However you could just let him plan something smallish, perhaps a private dining room type thing in a restaurant. 10 guests each plus close family etc, but not worth fretting about!

What waytheleaveswork said. Planning a whole party is tiring but a smaller thing is nice if you are up for that. Besides, it could be even better because close friends' circle always has some inside jokes and heartwarming moments and there is not much of that stuff at the usual huge celebrations. Do something fun, make cheesy Smartshow 3d wedding videos, talk about everything, do whatever that makes you happy. It's your wedding and there is nothing weird with doing it the way you want to.

Not weird at all. I didn;t want one, one of my friends went of to the states, one just had their parents - loads of people like small weddings or almost non-existent weddings. Congratulations btw!

Not weird, we done the same. Suited us and wanted to use the money for a nice holiday.

Not strange at all, a marriage is about the vows and commitment not the whole big day. I find a fake wedding far more strange, seems really weird to get married then pretend to do it again imo.

Not weird at all. It's your day. I personally hate big weddings and went to the registry office instead. You could plan to have a BBQ/small informal gathering with your friends to celebrate, or a meal with your close family. There doesn't need to be any speeches, awkward mingling etc. You could just do a film and takeout night if that suits you better.