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Used viagra and condoms

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Led52 · 16/08/2021 21:37

Looking for some painkillers today and came across a pack of viagra. They had all been uses ! And a packet of condoms. The pack was opened but none used. My OH has been unfaithful before. He will not own up and its driving me crazy . He only confessed before because he sent a message to me instead of his mistress by mistake.

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EspressoDoubleShot · 16/08/2021 21:41

Unfortunately I think he’s up to his nasty habits again and you have the evidence
What do you want to do? What would you like to happen?

You challenge him, he will fervently deny? Is the mistress still on the go?

Imcatmum · 16/08/2021 21:42

Urgh, you know what he's up to. He doesn't need to admit it.

PersonaNonGarter · 16/08/2021 21:43

You know the answer Flowers

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Led52 · 16/08/2021 21:45

He denies it so vehemently that there is no way I can prove it for sure. Not sure if it's the same mistress or not. Just feel like I need to outsmart him sadly 😥

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sanityisamyth · 16/08/2021 21:48

You don't need to outsmart him. You need a solicitor. Sorry!

EspressoDoubleShot · 16/08/2021 21:49

You don’t need the distraction of his bluster or denial, you know what he’s done
Whether or not he admits it is not the complete issue, you need to decide what do you want to go. Going forward ,what do you want?
Do you want to divorce? Do you have own money or is it all him?

Parentingdilemmas · 16/08/2021 21:53

Why does it matter if it’s the same mistress or why do you have to outsmart him? He’s been unfaithful before and he’s doing it again. Unless you have a teenage kids who could take the blame for the viagra and condoms I’m afraid your other half is at it again. You don’t need confirmation from him x

accentdusoleil · 16/08/2021 21:55

He won't own up but he's confessed ?

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Led52 · 16/08/2021 21:56

No all of our money is tied up. I need to find out for sure what he's up to as from experience it will be impossible otherwise.

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Led52 · 16/08/2021 21:58

He won't own up OR confess. 😔 so frustrating .

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RubyGoat · 16/08/2021 22:07

Are you married
Do you work, does he
Do you have shared finances
Do you have kids together, or individually, who does the childcare
Whose name is on the rental/mortgage

You already know what's going on, you don't need proof with his history, you just need to get sorted out.

UpstreamSwimmer · 16/08/2021 22:19

Why would there be used viagra in your own home if he's cheated? Maybe he used it to be with you.

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Led52 · 16/08/2021 22:19

Yes we both work. We are both in our early 50s. Our children are grown up and have left home. Our finances are shared . Stupidly I thought he was getting past his infidelities. To leave a trail of clues behind him is beyond me x

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Led52 · 16/08/2021 22:20

No he hasn't used it for me. I know that for sure .

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