Work is destroying my MH

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I've been in my job for 3 and a half years and think I've reached breaking point.

The stress of the work, the level of overtime, not being able to take time off in the summer when the kids are off, having to work extra hours every evening meaning so I dont even have time in the
evening to spend with the kids. Its taken over my life and even at night time I wake up worrying about the things I need to do.

I had PND 2 years ago and I dont think I got over it fully and work is making me so unhappy.

I really need a break and thinking of just taking a week or two off sick, but feel so guilty about it. I hate ringing in sick.

I have been sick for the last 2 weeks anyway and plan to go to the doctor today so thinking of asking for a cert for a week or two. Why do I feel so bad doing this though

No one should feel like this over work, take the time off
Take care of yourself

Don't feel bad. Take as much time as you need. Can you look for another job?

It's just the way you're made, you have a sense of responsibility but it's costing you. Take some time out, you sound like you really need to or you're going to crack.

You need a new job OP.

Best of luck

Do you love your job? It’s hard to ‘let people down’ by calling in sick but you’re not really they’d all cope I’m sure, though you’re possibly letting yourself down by not taking care of your mental health. Could you apply for work elsewhere with more suitable hours? Even after a break it sounds like you’ll be back at it again in no time feeling the same way…

Thanks for being kind. You're right, they would find someone to take on my work, so I dont know why I feel so guilty.

I'm working at the minute but will speak to my doctor this afternoon. Should I tell work its around the other sicknesses I had the last two weeks, or add that its stress/MH etc?

The company has a lot of departments and not all have as many year round deadlines as we have, so I would like to try another dept before leaving altogether. It would take a couple of months before a change could go through though.