House/Family Rules

[manhattenrain]

I'm curious to hear what house / family rules others have, eg. Only eating at dining table, no sleepovers... that kind of thing. Curious to see if the rules I've set are standard or if they'd be considered strict.

No shoes in the house
Tidy up after yourself
No one has to ear means they don’t like
Homework done on time.

Not heard of the no sleep over one bar in covid times, we always had an open house for friends.

Meals at the dining table unless it is one-hand food like pizza or similar eaten at movie nights.

No food in the bedrooms unless you are too ill to come down to the dining table.

No electronic devices at the dining table or upstairs at bedtimes (for all family members).

Dirty dishes go INTO the dishwasher, not on the worktop above it.

You spill something, you clean it up.

No makeup in the bedroom (one destroyed carpet was enough DD)

No food or shoes upstairs. If your not coming home for dinner, or have guests coming back for food let me know. If it's not in the basket I won't be washing it

We usually ate around the table though were flexible about it. Nobody ate anything they didn't fancy but there were always things that were liked.

I was happy about sleepovers, had loads of kids staying here over the years.

There were no hygiene problems, we all bathed, cleaned teeth, wore clean clothes each day, etc.

When no school or work, there were no rules about getting up unless one of us had arranged to be somewhere. Thankfully had plenty of lie ins!

Tidiness - I flogged a dead horse there but have to say am not tidy myself.

Wash your hands if you've been rummaging in your underwear (mostly dh), no phones on the toilet - we all fail at that one. No standing on the table at tea time (dh is tall and rather wobbly, so not one for him this time). No shoes on the beds. I'm a bit crap at rules.

@manhattenrain

I'm curious to hear what house / family rules others have, eg. Only eating at dining table, no sleepovers... that kind of thing. Curious to see if the rules I've set are standard or if they'd be considered strict.

Why no sleepovers?🙄

Shoes off and coats away.
Eat at the table, no phones.
Stack the dishwasher.
Put clean clothes away.
Tidy up every evening.

Food to be eaten at the table only.
No mobiles or other tech at the table.
No food upstairs.
Last one in at night turns the landing light off.
You make a mess, you clean it up, otherwise you will have to pay cleaning charges. ( That applied from being teenagers )
If you use something up and don't leave a note to say so, you will be charged twice the cost of that item ( again, applies to teenagers )

No phones at the dinner table.

No food on the sofa.

Wash your hands before you handle food.

• No electronics at the dinner table - apart from breakfast.
• Clothing must be worn at the table if eating hot food - to avoid burns.
• Shoes on or socks off but no wandering about in socks.
• You can only drink fizzy drinks if to the adults are drinking alcohol.

No shoes on carpets - only hard floors.

All meals eaten at the dining table. Some snacks ok in the living room dependent on what they are.

Only water allowed upstairs - no other food or drink.

• We don't touch people when they don't want to be touched.
• no eating food on my expensive throw that cost more than the sofa it's covering.
• let mummy drink her coffee before expecting anything from her first thing in the morning.

We sometimes eat something like pizza on the sofa but all other evening meals are at the table, eaten together unless someone is out somewhere
No electronics at table
The cook doesn’t clear up after (unless the other person is out)
Shoes off in house
No food in study and youngest DS2 no food in bedroom (teens sometimes take lunch/drinks to rooms)

No running around or climbing on adults whilst adults are drinking coffee.
Quiet voices when someone is on the phone.
If you clear your plate, put it in the sink. If not, food to the cats and/or put in the food bin.
Wind down time of bathing/story/quiet voices before bed.
No outdoor shoes indoors.
If we're cooking, you have to ask to enter the kitchen and only if an adult is already in there.

I can't think of anything else off the top of my head

Shoes off upon entering unless slippers
Put your own dirty dishes away after eating
Eat at the table mostly

These are our current house rules:

• Quiet between 11pm and 7am (some people have early starts for work).

• Do your share of chores (there's a rota).

• If you're in paid work / not in full-time education then you contribute a pre-agreed monthly amount towards groceries / utilities.

• No casual hook-ups staying over, it has to be someone we've met (because I want to feel comfortable in my own house and I don't want to be bumping into random strangers when I get out of the shower).

@somewhereovertherain

No sleepovers?

We don’t really have any rules. Kids old enough and ugly enough to look after themselves. We rotate washing up etc. They clean their own rooms / bathrooms / clothes. Etc.

No sleepovers at friends houses until 13 (that's the age they can have a phone.) Friends are allowed to sleepover at our house though and they can sleepover at their cousins houses.

They can go over to friends houses for play dates during the day as long as I know the parents well enough.

Until I was about 14 I had to ask to leave the table after a meal.

@Kitkat151 No sleepovers at others houses (other then cousins) until they're 13. I have this rule for safety. I saw way to much growing up from families my parents trusted and know others who have as well so I just can't risk it.

Food at the table. Don't leave cups, mugs, plates in your room. Bring your laundry downstairs to the washing machine. Shoes off indoors. Hands washed when you come home. No phones at mealtimes- make the effort to converse with everyone. Keep your bedroom reasonably tidy and clean. Help with pets a bit. Biggest rule I've had to enforce- don't spoil someone else's day. My dc are widely spaced in ages, if we're doing an activity that suits one of them, rest have to join in cheerfully or stay at home ( if old enough). We're really careful to make sure everyone gets to do something they like (eg on holiday), but you absolutely won't get to do yours if you are a sulky, grumpy spoiler of someone else's treat.

Treat everyone with respect.

Listen to each other and communicate openly and honestly.

Say sorry when you're wrong.

Help each other in whatever way you can.

That's pretty much it, I reckon. We don't have many rules in our house.

[quote manhattenrain]@Kitkat151 No sleepovers at others houses (other then cousins) until they're 13. I have this rule for safety. I saw way to much growing up from families my parents trusted and know others who have as well so I just can't risk it. [/quote]
if it's a safety thing, fair enough, but why allowed sleepovers at all then?

On a side note, I would be wary and wouldn't allow sleepovers that are not reciprocated. How can I trust someone with my own child if they are too uncomfortable to send their own?

No food upstairs, shoes off at the door. Supper together in the dining room usually unless it's a movie night (dinema, we call it). Generally pretty easy going!

Yes no tech at the table too (we'll often get board games out though)

Shoes off and wash hands when you arrive home.
Hang up coats
Hang up wet towels
Take plates from table to dishwasher
Dirty clothes into laundry bags
No throwing or climbing over the sofa
Try all food presented to you before deciding you don't like it.
No clothes/pillows/blankets/pjs to be left on the floor.
No aggressive behaviour
No screens at the dinner table
Inform parents if you make a mess when using the loo (DC are 5 & 7)